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AIBU?

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To park on neighbour's drive when they're away

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printmeanicephoto · 23/09/2021 11:39

My husband has started parking his car on our neighbour's drive as he knows they are away for a week. We have a good relationship with them and a few years ago they agreed to allow us to do this once when they were on holiday.

This time, however, my husband hasn't asked our neighbour's permission and has just done it anyway. I told him I think this is cheeky and that he should just pop them a quick text to see if it's ok. He says no, it'll be fine and he thinks they'll appreciate it from a security point of view, and that we did it a few years ago so it'll be fine now.

We have 3 cars, one in the garage and two on our narrow drive all in a row. The one in my garage is our teen's car which he saved up for himself, the other is mine and the other my husband's. He says parking one of the cars on our neighbour's drive will also make our life easier for a week (ie not having to reverse all the cars out to get out the one in the garage). I said he should park on the road instead as it's a fairly reasonable area with not much car crime.

Despite my protestations about being embarrassed if they return from holiday early to find one of our cars on their drive, he's stuck to his guns.

AIBU to think:

  1. That he should contact via text to check they don't mind
  2. That he shouldn't park there without asking them if I'm not comfortable with it

Just that really, thanks!

OP posts:
Hoppinggreen · 23/09/2021 12:11

I tell my neighbours to feel free to use the driveway each time we go away (they feed our cats) but I do think your H should ask them

LukeEvansWife · 23/09/2021 12:11

My friend's neighbour did this. My friend had arranged for someone to visit the house every couple of days to water plants, check up, that sort of thing.

CF neighbour had parked in their drive with one car and put the other in the road blocking the drive so they had all bases covered.

godmum56 · 23/09/2021 12:14

we do it here but only by agreement.

muddyford · 23/09/2021 12:24

We have this arrangement with our neighbours. It would bother us, and them, not at all, even if we/they forgot to ask.

Nowomenaroundeh · 23/09/2021 12:34

My DP does stuff like this. He would have no issue the other way around so assumes it's fine. I find it really embarrassing. His daughters behave the same way ("I'll just take that coat, you're not using it") and neither he nor they are aware how rude they come across.

In your situation I would contact the neighbours and ask or I would apologise directly and say it was not your decision and you didn't agree with it.

ChimChimeny · 23/09/2021 12:51

He should definitely have asked! My DP's neighbour parked on their drive when they were away but DM asked them to, they didn't just decide to park there on a whim.

Jaxhog · 23/09/2021 13:10

@PooWillyNameChange

Yes, he should ask.

If I were the neighbour I'd say yes of course immediately, but if I returned and found out it was being done without asking I'd think you were CFs!

This.
doctordoverylittle · 23/09/2021 13:24

Very rude. Also what if they have asked a family member to come check on the house and you are blocking the drive? Or if a neighbour is updating them, you may already be the subject of a "theyve parked there again" convo. with diagrams.

LukeEvansWife · 23/09/2021 14:06

I am not saying LTB but am shocked that people actually marry and stay with these cheeky fuckers

NerrSnerr · 23/09/2021 14:15

The neighbour could have people coming to visit or other neighbours who have asked to use the drive.

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