I don’t know if I’m BU, but here it is. I’ve been waiting to start this new job for a few weeks. We have the kids 50/50. He was meant to pick them up on Monday, so I texted him on Monday to remind him around 2pm. He calls me and tells me that his mum fell down the stairs Sunday and broke her hip, she’s in hospital and about to have emergency surgery so he cannot pick the kids up. I told him that’s fine, I’ll pick them up. I called him the next day just to ask how his mother is doing and get updates on the situation. He tells me his mother has had the surgery, she’s going to live with his sister once she’s discharged and she will take care of her. OK. Mind you, while all of this is going on I was waiting for my DBS check to come through, and got my certificate today. My manager asked me to come down tomorrow to discuss a start date and shifts. I told him this, and asked him what the plan is with the kids since I’m going back to work. He just flips out saying I don’t give a shit about his mum, I’m selfish etc. ( we’ve never had the best of relationship, but I still asked how she was doing)
I don’t know what he wants me to do, every time I call him he’s always at home. He’s not like his running around like a headless chicken. I get that his mum is at the hospital but it’s not like he’s there 24/7. She’s had the surgery, and is now in the recovery ward waiting to be discharged in the next week or two , then she’s going to her daughters house. He just goes to the hospital to see her. He doesn’t work. Why can’t he do this while the kids are at school? He’s not telling me anything in regards to the kids. I told him once my DBS comes through, I have to work. I’m going to see my manager tomorrow to arrange a start date.
I don’t know what I’m doing wrong? I wouldn’t even say anything to him if I wasn’t working, but I have to work?? He can’t just expect me to drop everything because his mother is in hospital? AIBU?