I'm a show off ...aibu?

[loulouvoo]

Around 4 months ago I started a new relationship.
After having a really nasty ex who treated me horrible,I'm happy and my now bf is lovely to me.
Every week we go out for a meal or drinks.
We've had a couple of weekends away and have booked up for November.
Stayed in a few nice hotels and we are in that stage of "doing fun things"
I'm aware it won't always be fun like this so I'm enjoying it.

I have posted a few things on fb and my best friend rings me every few days and asks my plans so obviously I tell her.
Told her I'm away at the weekend and she seemed a bit miffed.
Then she sent a text to the group chat by accident obviously meant for someone else
"Oh she's off gallivanting again,she's never in the bloody house,what a show off"
"Don't know how she affords it all"

I'm a bit hurt
Should I lie when she asks what I'm doing?
Do I not tell her ?

She doesn't sound like a friend OP.

People are allowed to be jealous of another person's situation but she's choosing to be a dick about it behind your back instead of just being happy for you and getting on with her life, as a real friend would be.

I’d send a simple “I’m guessing this wasn’t meant for the group chat” and see what she says. If it opens up a dialogue about how she’s missing you as you’re so busy but has expressed it badly (rudely!), I’d give her the benefit of the doubt. Her reaction would guide whether the I let it go or not.

She's mean spirited. I am currently with someone who makes me really happy. We also do lots of really fun stuff. Sometimes I post about it (largely to act as a record for me really-I don't give a fig what anyone thinks of my Instagram) sometimes I don't. I can't fathom someone being mean about their friend being happy....

@cravingthelook

She was mean and insensitive saying those things but I'm going to play devils advocate here and say she is potentially feeling pushed out and doesn't know how to explain it without coming across as petty.

My best friend is in a fairly newish relationship (just over a year) and I'm chuffed to bits for her, he's a great guy. That said I've been totally pushed out. She no longer does our stuff on our child free weekends because she's doing all the fun stuff with him. She no longer does kid stuff together on our parenting weekends because she does that with him and his kids.
We used to see each other at least 4 times a week and speak most days. And now I'm lucky if I see her once a month and talk once a week. The problem for me is when we do spend time together all she wants to do is talk about him (well she is loved up) or tell me what I'm doing wrong in my dating journey.

I have tried to explain it and it's brushed off. I've just left her to get on with it and genuinely hope it works out for her.
I would never gossip behind her back and I'm only posting here so you can see the other perspective. I genuinely feel like we'll never be as close as we once were.
I have prioritised other friendships and continue my dating journey without telling her about it.

Just look at what and how you are doing things and make sure you prioritise the friendship without it being the only topic of conversation.

I wondered if it might be along these lines?

I've definitely had friends who have dropped me when they've got in new relationships (and then been surprised when I've not jumped back to their beck & call when the relationship has gone south).

I wouldn't be stupid enough to write my thoughts on them & their relationship down in a WhatsApp group tho.

@toocold54

Honestly I used to get so fed up with people posting their entire lives on SM which is why I came off it. Obviously it’s your life but constantly posting about a guy you’ve only been dating for 4 months does seem a bit full on. Maybe she is just worried that you are rushing things with a new person especially if you had a horrible ex she may just be overprotective and doesn’t want you getting hurt again but it’s coming across as anger/jealousy instead.

Um, I'm not sure how saying OP is a show-off is being overprotective!

She completely meant you to read that. Just put a great big grin face or thumbs up.

Nah, it is her.
Reply something humurous on the group chat and leave at that! You got some good suggestions!

What a cow. Even if you have been neglecting the friendship, she should have come to you and said she missed seeing you and felt pushed out or something, not gossiping about you 'galivanting' (always a negative thing) and your finances with mutual friends.
I think I'd reply

1. You asked what I was up to, I didn't realise so it was you could tell everyone else
2. Overtime

Did you reply to the text?
Did anyone else reply?
Has she deleted it?

You need to confront that