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..to take half my house with me on holiday and STILL not get the packing right????

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tartanbaker · 22/09/2021 11:36

We are in the UK on holiday with our car. I have a 4-page packing list on my computer, put together over many years, & covering all eventualities (with dogs/beach or city etc). I hate being without my familiar creature comforts, so bring my favourite tea mug, my pillow, etc etc etc - basically half my house, and I STILL end up topping up from Amazon Prime. My husband could literally come with one pair of shorts, 7 t-shirts , 7 pairs of underwear and a can of deodorant and that would be him done. I think he’s a lunatic. AIBU?!

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TellMeSomeGoodNewsPlease · 22/09/2021 12:16

I think I’m quite good at packing - doesn’t stop my DH always implying I’ve taken too much but that’s probably because he’s in charge of getting it in the car.

I think the key is to remember that you’re not a different person on holiday so do not pack for a fantasy version of yourself/your family. Pack the same stuff you wear/use all the time at home.

But tbh if you’re a natural homebody you’ll never feel like you have “everything” with you like you do in your lovely home/nest and therefore will never feel like you have done the perfect pack. Somebody else might feel like they’ve done the perfect pack because it fit in a teeny rucksack and it was just enough to get them through, even though there were moments when the blue jumper might have been better than the black jumper. Mindset, innit?

This year we went on a slightly different type of holiday so I did a post-packing debrief list on our last day to remind myself what I packed and didn’t need, or didn’t pack and wanted. That’s probably a bit extra though.

HeAteItWithASpoon · 22/09/2021 12:16

I don’t think you’re unreasonable. I do similar, although probably not as organised as you. I panic, pack everything and only when I arrive there do I realise that I’ve forgotten everything. The last time I went away with my boyfriend I brought a packed suitcase with me for a 4 day trip. I’d packed my favourite candles, pillowcase and mug but had forgotten my hair straighteners and any smart clothes. I wore the same scruffy beach dress out to dinner 3 nights in a row 😬

TheCategoryIs · 22/09/2021 12:24

It’s got to be better to try and take what you need than buy duplicates/ overconsume though surely.

The final straw for me came with a trip to Paris in April. I hate April as it can be all weathers so I packed multiple coats for like a three day trip. DP, who is in charge of actually packing the case, was very patient but I was so annoyed with myself and ever since I have underpacked and still not worn everything.

Clothing wise layers are your friend, in that a pac a mac plus gilet gives more options than a proper jacket, and both of those are light and very packable. I take various sock options (liners, pop socks, warm socks) which hardly take up any space.

I’m now working on my toiletry bag....

IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere · 22/09/2021 12:24

I don't have to take my own mug but I do love having a pillow and blanket in the car. It makes my travel naps a thing of luxury. I am guilty of having an overnight/weekend bag, a handbag and - the thing that annoys my husband - a bag of stuff that I term "wanted on voyage". That would be my tablet, my books, chargers and anything else I might need before we get to our destination. There is usually a picnic/food bag as well.

purplecorkheart · 22/09/2021 12:24

I am very much a light traveller. Normally use everything that I bring and rarely need to buy anything. I like to travel with a small bag. I can't say that I ever bother bring pillows or mugs. Always have to have snacks though that I rarely ear.

1forAll74 · 22/09/2021 12:36

It's a kind of OCD thing, all this organising and packing of things for a holiday, and causes a lot of inner worry. You have got all that stuff to unpack at the other end,when you get to where ever, and then when back home,all the sorting out again. It's not worth all the hassle, and taking time away from your holiday excitement. Travel as light as possible, and don't worry about forgetting anything,

BiddyPop · 22/09/2021 12:46

I hear you.

I now bring a pillow each for DH and I (teen DD sometimes also brings one).

I have also bought soooo many mugs when away on hols (I usually bring them home to keep using them, in fairness), but if we are holidaying by car, I will often throw a favourite in. The tiny cups in most SC places are not what you want for relaxing with a whole pot of tea or coffee in the morning, or wrapping your hands around a mug of hot choc after a cold swim etc.

I have a box, which I filled over the years with items we bought on hols that were "missing" from SC places, and added a few extras when I gave in and just built a kit (it does now cover camping trips as well). 1 small sharp knife (now it's a set of 3 decent enough ones in covers to protect fingers), veg peeler, tin opener, corkscrew (repeat offender!), wooden spoon, etc. I ended up buying a cheap set of kitchen tools (non-stick spoon, ladle, whisk, spatula etc) and small chopping board in Ikea. (Half a) pack of clean plastic pegs (to use for hanging clothes out or closing packets of food - half have migrated to our own house over the years or been left behind). A pair of silicon hand mitts for hot pots that were a Christmas present 1 year (my kitchen ones were fine to keep using at home and these are small).

And consumables. Washing up liquid, ziploc bag with a handful each of dishwasher tablets and washing powder tablets and 2 firelighters, small bottle olive oil, salt and pepper grinders, half a box of ice cube making bags, half a box of ziploc bags, end of a roll of bin liners, a pot scrubber, any sachets of tea/coffee/sugar/hot chocolate/ketchup/mayonnaise/vinegar/soy sauce etc that I have gathered, half a box of coffee filters, matches, couple of nightlight candles....

I also have a list.
Well, various lists.
For camping.
For SC in summer.
For SC in winter (when buckets and spades/flippers etc are dropped, but hot water bottles and couple of cosy fleece blankets are good to have).
Additional items if it is Christmas in winter (Advent Calendar no longer needed, but stocking, a few decorations to stick up, some specific treats we all love etc).

There's a lot of crossover between the lists - any involving a solid building include plugs and charging cables; while any involving a tent involve a solar panel/power bank/2 types of charging cables (1 for bank, 1 for devices)
I always want a small torch and swiss army knife/multitool - but more of those if camping.
Board game we'll all play (exact 1 may differ depending on what type of break) and a book for me
Water bottles and travel mugs and cool bag/box
Nature book and local maps

And I also tend to do a food shop when I arrive, but want at least a loo roll and a roll of kitchen towel/kitchen spray, and a carton of milk, in the car for our arrival at the house.

Add in gear for all weathers (as we like to get out regardless) and occasions (we often have to visit family and get dressed up for things).....

But generally we use everything we bring.

HopeHappy · 22/09/2021 12:46

@tartanbaker

Exactly!! I wonder whether anyone, in the history of the world, has ever done a perfect pack, missing nothing out and using every single thing they take? 🤔😂
I was going to say I had until your final point! Pre-Covid I used to be good at having an excellent packing list and ticking it all off and making sure I had it all, then using the same list to make sure I brought it all back home again (I use the Notes app on my iPhone and use the checkmark option so I can physically tick things off).

I always take too much though and don't use it all. I have "just in case" items, in case our holiday cottage isn't particularly well equipped. Often things like kitchen foil, tea towels, etc, come with me but sit in the box unused until we go home again. I would certainly make do if I didn't have the space to take these things, but as we do, I don't mind.

One thing I was kicking myself for this year was not taking my own oven gloves! Cottage oven gloves are normally thick, stiff, short and impossible to pick thin trays up with, but despite their thickness burn your fingers unless you can put them down again within milliseconds. My good old fashioned oven gloves at home are the one thing from home I missed this time round!

Post Covid my packing skills have gone to shit as I've not been anywhere. I even managed to take my Dyson Air Wrap without any attachments. Idiot!

garlictwist · 22/09/2021 13:00

I always take my own mug as its HUGE and the mugs in holiday cottages don't suffice

Mrsjayy · 22/09/2021 13:03

What do you usually forget ?

FangsForTheMemory · 22/09/2021 13:07

I used to take everything but the kitchen sink, but the more I travelled the less I took with me. In the days when hand luggage was just 5kg, I would only take hand luggage for a week-long holiday.

MossyBottom · 22/09/2021 13:14

My packing philosophy.
If you are holidaying in the UK, by car, fill it up.
Abroad with weight restrictions take the maximum.
I have lists.
I am going for a weekend s/c in the UK next week and will be packing my big mug and thin pillow because a tiny mug is not the same and thick pillows make the arthritis in my neck worse.

tartanbaker · 22/09/2021 13:18

Mrsjayy oh well, the weather has been better than I thought it would be, so i bought some shorts as I only had denim cut-offs, I forgot my reading sunglasses so a pair of those, & then the battery ran out on the car key fob so I had to send off for one of those too! One of the dogs keeps barking overnight (strange place, I guess), & the neighbour complained, so I got an anti-barking collar to try and keep her quiet at night ( it just vibrates when they bark), and the other one chewed her lead under the table during one pub meal and I didn’t bring spares, so I had to get a new one of those too!!!

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Beamur · 22/09/2021 13:19

I used to overpack. Then went on a very minimal camping trip overseas where I had to carry all my clothes, bedding and toiletries for a week. It sharpened my priorities!
Now I can go camping for a week (in the car) with half the stuff I used to think was essential.

Hadenoughofbloodycovid · 22/09/2021 13:20

I take my own pillow and my favourite wine glass

Gorl · 22/09/2021 13:24

Bringing your own mug is a bit bonkers Grin

Gorl · 22/09/2021 13:27

That said, reading this thread indicates that many people are bonkers. Bringing your own wine glasses, oven gloves and candles seems utterly mad to me!

SusanBAnthony999 · 22/09/2021 13:28

Best packing advice I ever had was to take half the clothes and twice the money.

tartanbaker · 22/09/2021 13:29

Haha, you know what, whatever floats your boat - I love the fact that there are lots of gloriously bonkers just like me!!

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tartanbaker · 22/09/2021 13:30

Oops…*gloriously bonkers people just like me!!

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backinthebox · 22/09/2021 13:41

Take as little as you can with you everywhere you go! A poster above had a very similar packing list to mine - passport, credit card, kindle, pair of clean knickers, and that’s it, I can go anywhere. Obviously I do take more with me than that, but as a general rule I only take what I can carry. There is a reason the word ‘baggage’ is applied to something that weighs you down, it’s because it does!

I work in travel and I once saw families getting off a flight. The first were a family of man, woman and baby. They had bags and bags and bags of stuff in the aircraft cabin, which they said they needed because it was a 5hr flight and plus they had a baby with them. When their buggy didn’t appear at the plane door they huffed and puffed and asked how could anyone be expected to manage with a baby for 5hrs without bags of stuff. While they were complaining, the second family cruised past - a woman with a baby strapped to her chest, a small backpack on her back, and 2 young children each carrying their own little backpacks. One of these families looked much happier than the other, in spite of having fewer actual belongings with them.

Hopeisnotastrategy · 22/09/2021 13:46

@Mrbob

This is mental. Why on earth would you take a mug on holiday.
I take one way mugs on holiday because we like a bucket, not a thimble. Perfectly normal.
NalPolishRemover · 22/09/2021 13:52

We travel a lot & travel v light. Handluggage usually unless it's a long haul trip

I have never in my life brought things like mugs / pillows / candles on hols

Its all part of the adventure for me. I don't want my holiday to be the same as home!! That's the whole point.

We generally don't do holiday cottages though we often have a city apartment fit short breaks & I'm more than happy to muck along with whatever cup / mug I find in the apartment in Lisbon/ Krakow/ Budapest etc

Atalune · 22/09/2021 13:54

If we are travelling by car and holidaying in the U.K. The more niche items I bring are…

Candles
Room diffusers
Extension cord with multi plug
Pillows (plural)
Slippers
Sun lounger
Flat sheet for king bed. This I use between me and the accommodations duvet. I like my own smells.
Pillow spray

RavingAnnie · 22/09/2021 13:54

@tartanbaker

We are in the UK on holiday with our car. I have a 4-page packing list on my computer, put together over many years, & covering all eventualities (with dogs/beach or city etc). I hate being without my familiar creature comforts, so bring my favourite tea mug, my pillow, etc etc etc - basically half my house, and I STILL end up topping up from Amazon Prime. My husband could literally come with one pair of shorts, 7 t-shirts , 7 pairs of underwear and a can of deodorant and that would be him done. I think he’s a lunatic. AIBU?!
You went to the same packing school that I did. Lol.