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Priorities or mixed up days. Annoyed or just one of those things

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Toadmystery44 · 21/09/2021 19:22

I am getting an eye procedure where they make your sight blurry. Had it few times and was blurry for a few hours after. Asked my friend (who is an ex, ended as he was unreliable, bit selfish and more reliable as friends) if they could pick me up after the exam and stay with me for a few hours.

I didn’t want to take annual leave for this so arranged it on my day off during the week. Asked my friend if they could pick me up on the arranged date. They said yes. Perfect I thought. Rest of my friends work full time or don’t have the same day off as me.

Today he was asking what time to pick me up this week after my appointment? I told him it was the next week. He has now informed me he can’t as he got the weeks mixed up and taking his car in for MOT after work. He can’t do any other day as he car shares and MOT runs out soon and it’s the only time tye garage can fit him in. He had a classic car (of sorts) and it’s a specialist garage.

I am annoyed as I specifically checked the date before I asked him. His solution is to rearrange another date on my day off and he will pick me up. Hesitant as he can be unreliable and may forget again. Looks like annual leave for me and choose a date a reliable friend can do.

He says he feels bad but can’t change his MOT date. He lives 40 mins away from me but works in my city and the clinic was near his work.

Am I right to be annoyed or is it just one of those things? Just feel again getting his priorities trump mine and history is repeating itself.

OP posts:
Ivy48 · 21/09/2021 19:26

I don’t think it’s anything deliberate, he’s obviously just messed up dates by accident or otherwise he wouldn’t of asked what time it was or offered another date. Just say no worries and rearrange with someone eas

MouseRoar · 21/09/2021 19:30

well, he's an ex for a reason I guess. Taxi might work?

Toadmystery44 · 21/09/2021 20:17

Yeah guess I am annoyed as it’s learned behaviour. He says he feels bad and mixed up the days. Said he booked tye car after we arranged the date

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Lasttimeneveragain · 21/09/2021 20:28

This is why you don't stay friends with exes. The things they did to annoy you will keep annoying you forever.

BlameItOnTheBlackStar · 21/09/2021 20:41

Can't he drive your car?

EatYourVegetables · 21/09/2021 20:53

Taxi?

And plan the day so you don’t have to cook etc after?

icedcoffees · 21/09/2021 20:54

I think your mistake was relying on him when you knew he was unreliable!

Can't you get a taxi home?

Cadent · 21/09/2021 20:58

@Toadmystery44

Yeah guess I am annoyed as it’s learned behaviour. He says he feels bad and mixed up the days. Said he booked tye car after we arranged the date
YANBU to be disappointed. Hopefully he hasn’t done it deliberately. How is it learned behaviour?
Toadmystery44 · 21/09/2021 21:28

@Cadent just history from dating. He was a bit of a flake or changing plans. Over the last year, he has been ace. Always turns up on time, surprise days out etc. But he was off work. Now normal life has resumed reliability gets worse

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Cadent · 21/09/2021 21:30

I see. Well I wouldn’t be going out of my way to do him favours.

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