To ask if you’ve been ghosted by your therapist?

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Just that. Texted to make an appointment and nothing. About 6 sessions in.

Ever happened to anyone else?

When did you text them?

Just one text?

Perhaps they are having a personal/family crisis?

More details?
Was the message delivered via an app that shows it was read?
Did you follow it up?

@CurlyWurly321

Just one text?

Perhaps they are having a personal/family crisis?

Aye I guess anything could have happened.

How long ago did you text?

Follow up with a phone call?

Ease up OP, it's one text. Try calling their office.

How long ago and just one text? Holiday, family commitments, phone full of text messages so not receiving any more (happened to me, totally unaware until patient told me but phoning again). Try again or email

It is very unlikely a professional would have ghosted you.

The most likely explanation is that they are on leave, off sick, been busy or the message didn't go through.

No, but you're not the only one it's happened to

uk-podcasts.co.uk/podcast/my-therapist-ghosted-me

[quote Reallybadidea]No, but you're not the only one it's happened to

uk-podcasts.co.uk/podcast/my-therapist-ghosted-me[/quote]
Crikey is that real? It says she tracked him down at Enfield crematorium scattering his aunts ashes.

Maybe they’re on holiday. Try a phone call or email.

Try the old fashioned way and make a telephone call?

It says he "ghosted" her after she turned up as he was at the crematorium. No wonder he ignored her if she stalked him and the turned up as he was scattering ashes, that is a whole level of psycho, she is lucky he didn't call the police.

Thanks for the replies. I know I can phone or email. And of course something unusual might have happened. It’s been a few days and have heard nothing back – it’s the usual way they arrange appointments. I had a bit of an odd feeling after the last session so I suppose that is making me wonder a bit. Appreciate that’s a bit vague!

I was really genuinely wondering if anyone else had experienced their therapist going off the radar (for reasons other than illness / holidays, etc.)

@MatildaIThink

It says he "ghosted" her after she turned up as he was at the crematorium. No wonder he ignored her if she stalked him and the turned up as he was scattering ashes, that is a whole level of psycho, she is lucky he didn't call the police.

I know right?!

Possibly she is having some days off and has set a boundary between personal/work time on her phone? Maybe it’s a work phone and so not even with her.

Weirdly I had to ghost a therapist once - I had one session with her and didn’t really feel it was right person/environment for me. But she put me on the spot at the end of it and asked me if I wanted to continue so I said yes so I didn’t make it awkward. I then messaged her later and told her my true intentions (in a v diplomatic way) and she took it very personally and got angry and bitter with me, didn’t understand why I’d changed my mind, wouldn’t leave me alone. I was actually quite scared that she had my home address!

No but my therapist keeps asking me how I would feel if she dropped me. And I don't know why she keeps asking me this!

Therapists with any decent training, supervision and oversight should never ‘ghost’ a client. If they don’t think they can continue for any reason they should have that conversation with their client.

I suspect they are just busy and will get back to you. It can take me over a week to get on top of all my admin sometimes.

@Yummypumpkin

No but my therapist keeps asking me how I would feel if she dropped me. And I don't know why she keeps asking me this!

To explore your feelings dealing with rejection in life generally? Self worth etc

The only reason I would ever consider this acceptable (as in, being genuinely ghosted) is if she got hit by a bus or similar.

In reality - the text might not have got through, might be unexpectedly away, lost phone, health crisis etc. Email or ring before you panic that you've been ghosted.

Yes - happened to me. Really weird and didn't do much for the ol' self esteem.

Was seeing a counsellor, had 3 sessions. Going well and I was getting a lot of support from the process. As part of the introduction she explained she always turned off her phone during sessions and didn't answer the front door (she consulting room was in her house). Fourth session turned up as usual, rang the door bell and no answer. I could see she was there in her kitchen so knocked on the door - nothing. Put a note through the letter box and left a message on her phone, saying I would wait outside in my car for a while. Left after about 20 mins.

Felt really strange; if I had been waiting in for someone and they didn't show, I'd check my phone to see if any message had come through.

She eventually phoned a couple of hours later; she did apologise but something just didn't hang together so when she suggested booking another appointment I made some feeble excuse about having to go and would call her back. I didn't call and she didn't chase. I suppose strictly speaking not a full ghosting but very strange.

Go with your gut

I love this podcast. Hilarious

There could be any number of reasons. I'm a community mental health nurse, i failed to turn u p at a Microsoft Teams meeting last week. Reason being I was in a&e having a broken arm looked at.

That could gave been a service user.....fortunately I did get a message in to work to cancel appointments

This happened to my friend, who was paying for private CBT. She was very upset as it was really helping - eventually the therapists wife informed her he was no longer practicing. It was very strange and very unprofessional - which was felt all the more keenly because my friend was a very professional NHS worker, who couldn't believe a professional could behave in this way. She didn't believe he was no longer practicing.