To not want to pay for my DCs train fare to school from the ex house

[NoMoreLimbo]

Two DCs in high school. They can walk from my place.

The ex remains in the old family home which is either a drive or a train ride to their school. He expects me to pay half of their train fare for when he does not drive them (25 min drive). He currently works from home.

There is no money being passed either way between us but we 'share' the costs of school uniform, extra curricular club, top up for mobiles etc and any other things they need (like some clothes) that are not extras. Whilst he was not working I covered their clothes but he spent what he had heading to the pub or lots of wine at home (adding for context).

He is now back to working full time and has a couple of tenenats in the house which cover the mortgage and more.

I realise that it is happy days for me as the DCs can walk to school from my house but I really do not think I should pay half of their train fare to and from his house and school on the days they are at his. AIBU?

Just stop all the 50/50 bullshit and get maintenance, it’s clearly not 50/50

Yep.

Given all that, I'd tell him to stuff it - and I'd apply for maintenance, too.

@ginnybag

Given all that, I'd tell him to stuff it - and I'd apply for maintenance, too.

Exactly this. If it's 60/40 and you're the resident parent he should pay you maintenance as well as covering all the children's costs when they are with him. Lunches, travel, clothes, clubs. All of it.

You sound like you are still stepping up to fill the gaps in his parenting and you need to stop.

Nope you shouldn’t pay. If he wants to see them, he either collects them or pays for their train fare otherwise they aren’t going. Onus is on him.

Ex stayed in the family home. Op moved closer to the school. So op should pay half because ex didn't move closer to the school and she did
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FGS what is wrong with divorcing parents that they weigh everything up?

They are your kids. You pay for what they need in whatever proportions are fair. And if that involves train fares to get to school, you sort that out too.

Why one earth do you need to come and ask on MN.

Too many divorcing/splitting couples put their petty acrimony above the wellbeing of the kids.