To ask what you would think of this?

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I hired a lady who used to be a carer for DM. Just to come in during the mornings and help her and then again, during the afternoons for a couple of hours. She has been amazing and lovely with DM.
Now however, circumstances have changed and their is a centre she can go to of a morning which I can take her to for a few hours. It is quite a bit cheaper. I've told the carer this and she said she needs the pay for both morning and afternoon and will have to quit. This woman has become like family so it is hard to take. However, she also said she felt a bit disappointed that she was now being replaced by a cheaper option after all the support she has given us as a family. Aibu to make the decision we did?

It shouldn't just be about being cheaper. What's best for your mum?

She wants to go to the centre but I also know she will miss the carer.

Is your mum able to say what she would prefer?
I think it would be good to get your mum out and around other people but if she's close to this woman she might feel abandoned if she just leaves one day and doesn't return.
I think I would keep things as they are unless money is a huge issue.

Is there any way she could do both? A good carer is someone to hang on to, I think, but it would be good for your mum to spend some time outside the home. Would it be too expensive to do both?

I'd be sad if I was the carer, but you've got to put your mums wishes first
Has she had any taster sessions there to see if she really likes it or just likes the idea?
Can the carer stay and take her out and about more?
It's a hard one

If you are saving money taking her to the centre could you increase the carer's rate for the afternoon? Then she could supplement with some other morning work and be as well off financially with less hours. I would show her some loyalty yes but would put my mum's wellbeing above everything.

Your mum has obviously formed a great bond with the carer, and it would be a shame to lose that. Would it be possible for the 1-1 carer to take your mum to the centre? Spending time out of the home would be nice, and she would also have the familarity of the carer.

Also did you tell the carer that the reason you were using the centre was becuase it was cheaper? If so I can see why they would be hurt.

Its really difficult, but this woman isn't family, she's paid to be there and she would leave if she had a better job offer too.

I wouldn't base your decision making on one person.

It sounds like your mum would enjoy being at the centre so I think you've made the right choice for her.

Take her to the centre 3 times a week and suck up the extra cost? And as a pp said, could the carer take her for walks, coffees etc?