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Share your worst dating disasters

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Librocubicularistt · 20/09/2021 22:34

I went on a blind date and the person never spoke to me properly, they ended up making me pay for their meal (would have wanted to go halves) as their card didn’t work and on top of that ate all my food and I thought he would lick the plate; I was utterly disgusted because he made me cringe..
what’s your worst dating disasters?

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Librocubicularistt · 20/09/2021 22:35

By ate I meant he’d gobbled his plate and then asked if I wasn’t going to finish mine and just dug in

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avamiah · 20/09/2021 22:41

It was years ago but went for a few drinks with a guy I met from a dating meet up and we went to a few pubs.
We went 50/50 at the first bar as we sat down and I was happy with that but then we went to another bar and it was a bit rowdy and he told me it was my round while he stood behind me at the bar.
I felt mortified but paid for drinks and then said I was going to the loo but I didn’t and instead ran as quick as I could from the bar .
Hahaha

Notimeforaname · 20/09/2021 22:43

I went on a blind date and the person never spoke to me properly oh he sounds awful😩
Do you mean he hardly spoke at all..just....ate?

Notimeforaname · 20/09/2021 22:49

A few years ago my partner and I briefly separated. I wasn't in a very good place and tried to distract myself by trying online dating for the first time.

Went to one date, and t'was ME who was the date from hell🤦‍♀️

I was jittery,talking too much ,making awful jokes that weren't even jokes. It was horrendous. Theres a reason I had never done it before. It was really not the thing for me.

He looked petrified the whole time. I've never acted like such a moron in my entire life. And I only had one pint!! The cringe,the horror. Never ever again.

Notimeforaname · 20/09/2021 22:50

Ugh I'm going to have to re live this for the night.. til I fall asleep😂😭

Librocubicularistt · 20/09/2021 22:50

Yep hardly spoke- it seemed as if he was there for a meal.. I can’t believe how cheeky some people can be!!

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avamiah · 20/09/2021 22:51

@Librocubicularistt

Yep hardly spoke- it seemed as if he was there for a meal.. I can’t believe how cheeky some people can be!!
I can

Some people have no shame.

Librocubicularistt · 20/09/2021 22:52

Not your fault, he could have also tried to talk and make date easier.. it’s an experience, nothing to regret or lose sleep over xx

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Notimeforaname · 20/09/2021 22:56

Thanks for the support!😆 Clearly my heart wasn't in it as I just wanted to be with my partner.

That experience really made me realise my partner did, in fact, bring out the best in me. As that night I was a lunatic HmmGrin

Spikeyplants · 20/09/2021 22:57

I worked in an area where lots of other companies/trades/staff came into us. One day, I thought a particular cute, young guy came in. I went on a lunch break and afterwards, a colleague had taken a name and number of someone interested in me.

We chatted on the phone and organised a date. On arrival, it was clear that the person I thought was the cute guy, was infact an older man who had also come to my work that day!

Sparklfairy · 20/09/2021 23:04

I've told this here before but it still makes me cringe...

I went on a date with a South African man (relevant, and nothing against SAs!). I travelled to his town which was only a few miles away but the bus journey was particularly gnarly so took a long time to get there.

He was really late - maybe an hour? I didn't know the town so loitered in a car park while he texted me intermittently saying, 'leaving in a few'. Because I'd travelled so far I didn't feel like just leaving, especially as he kept saying he was on his way nearly

When he finally turned up, I tried to make light of it. 'Do you often keep women waiting?' He rolled his eyes and said, 'Oh GOD. You're not a feminist are you?' Hmm 'Well,' I said, 'That depends on how much of a misogynist you are.' Then he looked me up and down and said, 'Where I grew up, every one of my servants were women, and, I don't take any shit from women.'

FUCK KNOWS WHY I STAYED. But we went on a pub crawl. Clearly we had both taken a dislike to each other so just got drunk and our sniping and jibes at each other got worse and worse. By the end we were sitting in a corner of a pub just snapping at each other like an old married couple who hated one another and no longer cared.

Very very drunk, the last thing I remember is my taxi arriving. I stood up, said, 'Can't say it was lovely to meet you, you really are a cunt,' and left.

The thing I was most disappointed about was when I went to block him and he'd got in there first! Grin

MumofSpud · 20/09/2021 23:13

@Sparklfairy

I've told this here before but it still makes me cringe...

I went on a date with a South African man (relevant, and nothing against SAs!). I travelled to his town which was only a few miles away but the bus journey was particularly gnarly so took a long time to get there.

He was really late - maybe an hour? I didn't know the town so loitered in a car park while he texted me intermittently saying, 'leaving in a few'. Because I'd travelled so far I didn't feel like just leaving, especially as he kept saying he was on his way nearly

When he finally turned up, I tried to make light of it. 'Do you often keep women waiting?' He rolled his eyes and said, 'Oh GOD. You're not a feminist are you?' Hmm 'Well,' I said, 'That depends on how much of a misogynist you are.' Then he looked me up and down and said, 'Where I grew up, every one of my servants were women, and, I don't take any shit from women.'

FUCK KNOWS WHY I STAYED. But we went on a pub crawl. Clearly we had both taken a dislike to each other so just got drunk and our sniping and jibes at each other got worse and worse. By the end we were sitting in a corner of a pub just snapping at each other like an old married couple who hated one another and no longer cared.

Very very drunk, the last thing I remember is my taxi arriving. I stood up, said, 'Can't say it was lovely to meet you, you really are a cunt,' and left.

The thing I was most disappointed about was when I went to block him and he'd got in there first! Grin

I thought you'd finish with .... and we've been married for....years!!
Daria32 · 20/09/2021 23:28

Date with a guy i knew from around and fancied, but didn’t know well. Having drinks in a nice bar, I thought date was going really well and then an older man approached us, introduced himself, had a nice chat and left. I said ‘he seems like a lovely man, how do you know him?’ He replied ‘he’s my probation officer’….

BlueMoons90 · 20/09/2021 23:36

Went on my first date after my relationship of about 2 years ended. We went to Wagamama, where you share tables with strangers. Having an ok time, then about half way through my recent ex boyfriend and his MOTHER sat down next to us. For some reason the mother didn't connect two and two together and spoke to us for the entire meal. It was awful.

Unfashionable · 20/09/2021 23:45

Many years ago, I went on a date with a ridiculously hot Aussie guy. He was my friend’s cousin who was doing a gap year in Europe. He was lovely and I couldn’t believe my luck that he wanted to take me out.

Everything was going really well & we were chatting about Australia when I mentioned something about the aboriginal people having been poorly treated in the past. He then went off on a massive racist rant about how ‘they’ were all lazy illiterate alcoholics who just wanted to claim welfare & get pissed while contributing nothing to society etc etc. Horrible stuff. Any chance he might have had of getting laid that night evaporated and I never spoke to him again.

TonyThreePies · 21/09/2021 01:13

I had just started seeing a bloke who lived 200 miles away. He was in my area for work and staying at a local hotel with his assistant. I went to meet him, he was playing pool in the hotel bar and continued to do so for hours. I was actually supposed to be working that evening and so, bored senseless, l I told him I was going to slip out for an hour and check all was well at work. When I got back he was still playing pool, but also ignoring me.

At the end of the evening we went back to his room and he immediately started laying into me for embarrassing him in front of his assistant by leaving. I said sarcastically "What was I supposed to be doing, cheering and clapping at all of your shots?" and he genuinely said yes. I really should have walked out there and then, but he somehow smoothed things over. We ended up sleeping together. I went to the loo after and part of the condom was inside me. I told him the condom had split and that I would get the morning after pill the next day. He later confessed to sticking a pin in the condom so I would get pregnant and wouldn't leave him.

I also got a bollocking from my boss the next day for not being there, even though I had requested the night off and popped in for an hour.

BashfulClam · 21/09/2021 01:30

Oh I went on a date I didn’t want to go on. My brother works with a good bunch of people and I joined them all in the pub. I snogged a guy when get drunk she gave him my number. The next day I realised it was a mistake, I wasn’t over my ex, I didn’t fancy him…being the people pleaser i am I went through a cringey date where he obviously thought I was into him like he was with me. I had to do the whole ‘it’s not you, it’s me, I’m in a bad place and not ready for a relationship!’ He then said ‘we don’t need to be in a relationship let’s just have fun!’ I wasn’t having any fun though I was so uncomfortable the whole time. Plus he was rude about my lovely older brother, I wasn’t having that! I eventually got away and got to my car. He texted me a few times but I ignored him.

Duckypoohs · 21/09/2021 01:40

I remember on one date I leant over to scratch my ankle, for some reason he thought I was going in for a kiss. I kind of went with it, but it was awful, he was such a dimwit.

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 21/09/2021 01:47

I had the final tightening of my gastric band and went out for dinner with this guy, I couldn't eat a thing, I kept rushing to the loo to throw up, he thought I hated the food, i was in agony.
Couldn't keep anything down, went off to have it loosened a couple of days later but never heard from him again.

Catflapkitkat · 21/09/2021 04:44

Not me (honest) my good friend signed up to an executive dating agency. One date told her he was working on high profile legal case that would be in the papers soon and if she didn't hear from him again, it wasn't her, it was because he would have to go into witness protection. We had to tell her there is no such thing in the UK.

Another date they sent her on. Met in a busy restaurant on a Friday night, she orders a food and he only wants a starter. He wolfs down his starter and tells her he may as go back to work as there is 'no spark.' He puts the cash on the table for his starter and drink and leaves her alone to wait for her main course.

Another guy, got drunk and proceeded to mark the women in the pub 'out of 10'. When friend said he was being
sexists and disrespectful. He invited her to join in and rate all the men.

She paid a lot of money for this service, I said she could get the same calibre of idiot online dating for free.

Sparklfairy · 21/09/2021 06:27

I said she could get the same calibre of idiot online dating for free.

Wise words Grin

Librocubicularistt · 22/09/2021 00:55
Shock
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Librocubicularistt · 22/09/2021 00:55

Haha yep Smile

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Gorl · 22/09/2021 06:09

@Catflapkitkat

Not me (honest) my good friend signed up to an executive dating agency. One date told her he was working on high profile legal case that would be in the papers soon and if she didn't hear from him again, it wasn't her, it was because he would have to go into witness protection. We had to tell her there is no such thing in the UK.

Another date they sent her on. Met in a busy restaurant on a Friday night, she orders a food and he only wants a starter. He wolfs down his starter and tells her he may as go back to work as there is 'no spark.' He puts the cash on the table for his starter and drink and leaves her alone to wait for her main course.

Another guy, got drunk and proceeded to mark the women in the pub 'out of 10'. When friend said he was being
sexists and disrespectful. He invited her to join in and rate all the men.

She paid a lot of money for this service, I said she could get the same calibre of idiot online dating for free.

Not saying this guy wasn’t lying to make himself look exciting, but the U.K. does have a witness protection programme.
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