AIBU to decline?

[coffeewithmilk]

I've been invited to a good friends hen do next year which is just after I will have given birth. Baby will be around 11 weeks.
I was asked to contribute money towards the hen do to secure the place that needs to be booked.

AIBU to decline?

I said I wouldn't be able to go, but I'm the only one in the group that can't go.. I know I'm probably overthinking it but I'll have a new baby and I just don't want to commit to something right now

Obviously all people are different but I absolutely would not have left my LO at 11 weeks, hed have been distraught and so would I of. I think I went out for the first time when he was around 5 months and felt ready then. You are absolutely no y being unreasonable.

Crikey, I was out on a hen night 5 weeks after giving birth. I couldn't wait to get out and feel like me again for a few hours. I expressed enough milk for the night and the next morning and my DH took care of our son.

I went on a friends hen do when DC1 was 12 weeks old. I live in a city so the bridesmaid was amazing and had the hen weekend here, so no travelling for me and I could stay at home.

We spent the day at an outdoor climbing activity.I was quite chuffed i didn't wee myself actually, zip lining 12 weeks after a tough birth.

But I was sooooo tired. I nearly fell asleep and face planted in my pizza at dinner. Plus my boobs were so sore with milk. The chief main bridesmaid got a bit stroppy with me as I just couldn't stay awake. (She did actually say after she had her first child that she didn't realise how tired i would have been! ).

I really enjoyed the daytime activity and spending time with the bride and friends. It was really helped me realise having a baby still meant I could do exciting non baby stuff and was emotionally empowering.

But going out in the evening was too much for me and i probably brought the mood down a little :-(.

Would doing the daytime activity and declining the evening be a practical option?

You don't want to commit so don't.

"Hi friend, thank you for inviting me but I can't commit right now as I'm not sure how I'll feel about leaving the baby by then. Have a fab time and can't wait to see the photos and hear all about it. Let's set a date for lunch and a catch up on me when you get back"