Toxic mother

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Any ideas how to deal with a toxic mother?

Should I just go non contact?

Anyone else had to deal with a toxic mother?

AIBU to go non contact

YABU - stick it out she is your birth mother
YANBU - no contact

I have a toxic mother and I try to keep as much distance as possible. I dont think I'll ever go completely no contact as she is still mother. However, I suppose it depends on how toxic they are and how much of a negative impact they have on you.

It depends how bad she is I suppose but if she’s having a negative impact on your life and causing you pain then you shouldn’t have to put up with that, blood relation or not.

I have a toxic MIL (and FIL).

I and DC have gone NC, although still see them at events but communication is very minimal.

DH has gone LC. Checks in now and again but nothing more.

It had done wonders for our mental health and general family life. Even our marriage.

Give it a go, hope it helps you

I have a toxic mother. I went nc last year and it was the best thing I ever did. After over 30 years she finally pushed me over the edge and I'd had enough. It was impossible to maintain any kind of relationship with her and it was harming me.

I think it really depends on the circumstances and whether or not you feel the relationship is salvageable. On the one hand you probably wouldn’t want to do something you may later regret if the relationship can be improved, but on the other hand you absolutely have to consider your own wellbeing. I hope you’re able to find a resolution that makes things better for you (either way).

@samwitwicky

I have a toxic MIL (and FIL).

I and DC have gone NC, although still see them at events but communication is very minimal.

DH has gone LC. Checks in now and again but nothing more.

It had done wonders for our mental health and general family life. Even our marriage.

Give it a go, hope it helps you

Thanks, I will try