Aibyu in thinking it's too hard to have children these days

[Happieronmyown]

I know this has been done to death, but just need to rant I guess. I've probably been reading too much doom & gloom news and it's affected me.
I'm ok because I have a good job, no mortgage or debts. My adult children on the other hand have ok jobs, sky high rents and one child each, which I am of course grateful for.
But I can't help feeling that constant failures by successive governments over the years, and those in power always being interested in looking after themselves & their cronies only have really shafted the youngsters & young families of today and its really come back to bite them on the bum.
They both would like another child so much but how is it possible to give them a decent lifestyle? I don't mean lots of toys etc, just a nice, fun childhood. All I can see ahead is sky high bills, extortionate childcare costs & the stress of the rat race trying to get one child to school, one to a childminder & still get to work on time in all this heavy traffic. I have lived through recessions & very high mortgage interest rates & managed ok, but to me it just seems too hard for todays generation.
What's the point in having any more children, in any of it?

YANBU but it was inevitable when the nuclear family was shafted and it wasn’t possible to bring a family up on one income anymore.

I'm hoping my young adult dcs don't bother having children because I think it's just too stressful and difficult now. I think they'll be making life difficult for themselves and their children if they did. I don't know whether they will, of course it's up to them, but I don't feel it's a great thing to do anymore. Is life supposed to be a miserable struggle? Who knows. I know we spent a fortune on nursery when they were young, but I could afford to only work a couple of shifts a week. I tried repeatedly, but failed, to obtain NHS help for their adhd and aspergers and we had to spend money on private help and education. There's nothing out there if you can't afford stuff. The system is awful and set against parents.

I have two young DC (one in infants and one under 3) and it is bloody hard. I am lucky too that my husband earns well and I have managed to go part time and earn relatively well for my hours worked. Even so it is a struggle and a juggling act. I found it particularly hard going back to work after my 2nd maternity leave finished. Having two DC was a lot harder than having one and takes up significantly more mental head space.
I don't really have any time for myself and constantly feel like I am failing at either parenting, work or at keeping on top of the housework. We do thankfully have enough disposable income to be able to do nice things with the children on a regular basis (and enough variety to keep the adults sane(ish)) and I can only imagine it is so much worse and more challenging on a lower income.
I used to want three children but now I know that would be a ridiculous decision to make, both financially and mentally!
I do think the village is missing from childrearing these days. We have very little support available from friends/family. It is basically only what we can afford to pay for and the very occasional favour called in from grandparents. I don't have a sense of having much support around me at all.

YANBU but it was inevitable when the nuclear family was shafted and it wasn’t possible to bring a family up on one income anymore.

This, basically.

Realistically, there was never a good time to have children since humans first occupied the earth.

I dunno. We’re both on a low income, can’t afford a flashy lifestyle, can’t afford a lot of things, but nothing else has brought me the sheer joy that having a child has.
Yes, it’s hard work, a slog sometimes, but life is magical with her around.