To change child's name on class app?

[MoonCowbag]

My DD age 7 started a new primary school in September (after a house move) and school uses the Seesaw Class app.

My daughter doesn't use her full registered name in day-to-day life. She has a slightly different shortened version that is her preferred name (and which has primarily been used since her birth (think similar to registered William but called Bill)).

School is aware and all her stuff is labelled with preferred name. It was put on all official forms, etc. The teachers use the preferred name in conversation with me and when addressing her/doing register.

In the Seesaw Class app her full registered name is used. I can see there is an option to edit the name available, but just wondering if that is an acceptable thing to do? Or is there a reason the full name is needed here? My daughter has expressed she would prefer if it had her preferred name (she's VERY keen to only use this and doesn't really like her registered name that much).

I feel like this is a super petty thing to ask the teacher about (and don't want to be "that parent" so early in our relationship with the new school), so I thought I would ask mumsnet instead. Can I change it or will that potentially cause an issue, or earmark me as a twat?

I would absolutely do it. That's her name.

I just changed my kid’s without even considering it! They had her middle name which we don’t use day to day, and I went into settings and saw I could change it. No problem and no one has said anything

It's her identity and if she answers to Beth and feels no connection to Elizabeth well then she should be called Beth on the app too. I don't think they'll think you're being twattish or precious!

@RiotAtTheRodeo

Beth/Elizabeth is a much better example. My mind went blank and I couldn't think of any other examples using a female name (other than my own DDs real name).

Thanks for the posts so far, I am probably overthinking TBH. This is my first mainstream school experience. DD has been homeschooled until now, so I have little idea what I am actually doing at the moment!

I don’t think you’re being U, just change it. Have you considered changing the name legally though, as I will warn you that this is going to happen all the time.

Just change it.

It will only be the full name l because they used that for the data import

Def change it on the app. I wouldn’t worry about changing it legally, you may find she grows into it/decides to use it when she finishes education/starts work.

Oh totally change it DSuses his middle name rather than first name (his middle name is a derivative of his first name) I change it on everything, class dojo etc

Change it.

If you’re worried ask the teacher, they really won’t mind and I’m sure it’s common. At my last school we used classdojo and I edited lots of the kids names if they asked to be their shortened names (think Ben from Benjamin) as they never used their full names.

More than likely the names for the app where imported from a centralised list and nobody noticed it didn't have her preferred name on there.

Just change it

Change it. We had the same situation and DD was very upset because it wasn't "her" name and everyone kept asking her why her stuff was labelled with a different name. No one could spell her (nick)name properly because of regional pronunciation issues / the kids didn't see it like they saw everybody else's name daily. We were also told it wasn't possible by the main class teacher but the student teacher managed to change it!

Just change it.
My DD is only known by her shortened name/nickname but I insist on her having her full name written on everything, so I'm super awkward

The school I worked in insisted we used formal names in all reports and other communication. So we would have to write, for example, Rebecca, when the girl was known as Becky. It always felt slightly wrong to me but lots of schools insist on it.

I would change it. I don’t think anyone would mind if that’s what’s he’s known as

I don't know why schools would insist on it being fun name on reports

I wrote medical reports for children and will have their full banner and nhs number on the top and then use shortened name throughout with the line at beginning : Rebecca known as Becca

Thanks all. I have changed it now, as that seems to be the general consensus on here. I am sure if there is any issue then the school will let me know and it will be simple enough to change back (if it must be the formal name for any reason). I hadn't considered that it would be a mass data import, which does make sense really.

I don't personally want to change her name formally. I feel that is a decision for her further down the line. She's gone through phases where she's been fond of the formal name, and then less so. And as she's only seven it feels a bit previous to change it formally at this point. If I had my way she would have been registered as her preferred/shortened name, but having a longer registered name was a compromise with my partner, who is more traditional than me. I know lots of adults who go by shortened names or even middle names, without any issues, so I would like to leave options open for DD when she's an adult.

Thanks again for the helpful input. Good to know I am not a twat!