AIBU or just overly sensitive?

[Hamjamwich]

DH just had a fit because he couldn't find a certain pair underpants. I found it upsetting and belittling. He got them out of his work bag earlier and left them on the armchair, so I moved them to the bottom step to be taken upstairs. (Clean by the way).They were not there when he looked for them.
He was saying the f word and searching all over. Saying "I can't have anything". Also accusing me of losing several other pairs in the past. Our teenage son was amazed by DH's behaviour and asked why he was fussing over a trivial thing.
I've found some previously on a dining room chair and several pairs in his work bag that had been in there for months during lockdown. AIBU to hate this showing off and bad language that he knew our son could hear? he's "lost" things before, accused me and then found where he had put it.
He apologised shortly after. I wanted to tell him what I thought but kept quiet as our son was in the next room.

Does he do other twatty things like this? My exh would do the cant find anything/it must be YOUR fault dance, but when he actually looked with his eyes, things magically appeared. It was just another thing to add to the emotionally abusive list

Huh? Has he got a weird pants fetish? Why is he taking pants to work?

Why does he carry pants around?

Beyond that…

Course YANBU. He’s pathetic. Why’s he tantrumming over pants?! How unattractive.

An apology means nothing if he’s done it before and will do it again. Tell him you don’t accept and will not be spoken to like that again.

It must be a rarity for your teenage son to be amazed by it.

Very unattractive behaviour by your DH.

Sorry, why is he taking his underpants to work?

Why would you ‘lose’ several pairs of his underpants? Why would you be supposed to keep track of any of his garments, for that matter? Why is he so over-invested in his pants?

I mean, this sounds very funny - were you not all laughing at how ridiculous he was being? You certainly should have been!
How embarrassing for him to behave in such a manner!

Are you married to a feline? The only creature I know who carries knickers around like that is my cat.

YANBU. He is being a twat/cat.

YANBU, dot tidy up the twat, it just gives him leverage.

Well, he sounds unbearable-cum-abusive.

@TwoAndCooPlease

Sorry, why is he taking his underpants to work?

why on earth does he think you all want to sit in the living room with his underpants draped over an armchair? I live on my own, and might not put stuff away - but if I lived with people I wouldn't assume they wanted my underwear on display in the middle of shared living space.

Pants in bags!? Most odd.

Also he’s being a dick. Is he always this childish/stroppy?

Maybe just leave him to it next time. I mean probably best to ask him to move the pant mountain when you’ve got visitors coming especially if they’re strewn about everywhere or alternatively embrace the pants weirdness and do ‘pants bunting’ once you’ve collected a few?

I can’t imagine what his job is if it requires him to carry spare pants on a regular basis…a male stripper maybe, or something involving river wading or something where he gets unexpectedly frightened on a daily basis and has little accidents!? Do enlighten us OP, it’s not something I’ve encountered before!

Or is he David Gandy & all he wears is his underpants for work!?

Here’s David having a think about where all his other work underpants pants are..

(& if that’s the case OP I’d probably forgive him, but on the off chance your DH is not David Gandy then he really does need to have a little word with himself about taking responsibility and trying to behave like a grown up. Stroppiness & blaming/finger pointing are really not very attractive traits!).

Is there a factory cranking out dickheads for unsuspecting women to end up with? Your husband sounds like a deluxe dickhead!