To feel a complete failure ?

[peewitsandy]

I am 46 single divorced and unemployable woman with three children who has not worked for over 16 years since DD1 (16) was born. I can't cook don't have any social life never go out other than supporting the kids or the parents. I have not one friend where I now live in Essex. I gave up private schools for the kids, five bedroom mansion in 2 acres of land a holiday home in Spain and the choice of four luxury cars .

This to prove to my ex husband that I have an opinion and cannot be manipulated to toe the line towards his families eccentricities and wrong doings.

However, I feel I made a stupid mistake divorcing my wealthy ex husband and that my kids would have been better off staying with him.

I think life is what you make it to be honest. When did you last have a job interview? You're not a failure, you just need to change your mindset and persevere with the job hunting. It's hard, but others manage to do it, so can you.

Who says you are unemployable?

Is exH paying towards his DCs?

Is there a roof over your heads? Have DCs had dinner tonight? Are you stuck with a manipulative husband with a ghastly family?

You're only halfway through life! Get some skills and get a job. You might enjoy it. Build up a new social life. But don't throw away your self respect and values for a holiday home.

The settlement from the husband paid for a comfortable house for the kids and a decent car . every month I also get a sensible sum of money from him to provide for the kids.

Regarding skills I have a 2.1: in Politics from Manchester University from 1998. However, I never used it and have only worked for my husband /father in laws company who I met from University.

A Degree in Politics from Manchester University gained in 1998. I have only had one job interview in my life and that was for part-time Friday evening Saturday day job at Blockbuster Video when I was 16 !

Can do either retrain or do some volunteer work to make yourself more employable?

In your circumstances, I would definitely retrain. Have you thought about social care or nursing or something care giving?

your confidence is shot, understandable considering your situation. Choose a course to do, or a voluntary role, and you will soon find you are capable of much more than you realise