Aibu or would my DC have lost their t'a at any school

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My DS goes to a normal good rated by Ofstead infant school, but he's come home having lost his t's. It's all " I had a bo..le of wa..er" Would this happen at private school? I grew up in south London and then relocated to the hoek
Counties as an adult. I have worked really hard to improve my Estuary English, after I over heard some crude comments about how common I spoke during a group stage job interview age 18. I even had lessons and I speak very well now I'm 40. (Grammar still patchy.) Should I sell up and try to send him to private school instead? I want him to have a good chance or aibu ?

Opps the typos, not really much hope for him 😬

you are being ridiculous

All children learn how to speak politely, and how to speak casually

www.theguardian.com/education/2019/jan/27/private-pupils-use-mockney-accent-to-seem-less-posh-says-ex-head-of-harrow
It could happen anywhere...

My kids told me they hated how I speak when I read them stories, because I pronounce the ts, and their teachers didn’t. After a few months of this I played them some YouTube videos that explain different accents and they go more easy on me now and are less resistant to pronouncing their own ts. Private school is an extraordinary expense, is it worth it to get an accent?

I think it would be a strange reason to send your child to private school.

Whenever we dropped letters DM would correct us “there’s a T in water” we would eyeroll but she was consistent.
I’m thankful now as an adult.

I don't believe that private school fees would be worth it for the ability to pronounce Ts even if it could be guaranteed.

Sign him up for LAMDA lessons and insist on RP spoken at home and at weekends and he can speak estuary english at school. Lots of kids have to be bilingual so easy enough to master two different accents of one language.

Maybe move to an area with a more pleasing local accent

Where do you live op? How old is he?

I don't think you should make the decision based on t's. If you can afford it, and you think he'll get a better education, go for it.

It’s normal. Both of mine did the same in reception. I corrected them and after a few days they were back to normal.

Lots of supposedly posh, certainly privately-educated, people I know these days have a distinct trace of estuary about their accents, even if they don't go all the way with the glottal stops. It's not a guarantee of anything.

I'm East Midlands and wa..er is normal language here, as well as Pacific instead of specific...
I grew up with a mum that constantly corrected me, and now she is the voice in my head that makes me talk properly.

Ds 2 now says wa..er. I correct him, but I've accepted it's just the way it is, he'll learn as he grows. Pretty sure the same will happen with yours

My DS dropped his T once
We sent him to Eton immediately and that sorted it out

Yabu and a horrible snob

I correct dds when they’ve done that. I just say accents are regional but dropping ts is more lazy than regional and you get judged for it as an adult (whether people think it is snobby or not, that’s the reality). I just say, can you pronounce your words properly please?

I drop some of my Ts when I’m in casual company and I also speak with a local accent. When I do my professional job, I knock the corners off it

Are you still in SOurh East OP, because what you’re describing. Is quite normal for accents here. RP isn’t the way we speak!

Glottal stops and the 'glottalisation' of /t/ is becoming more widespread and is seen less and less a "common" thing. Whereas just a few decades ago regional accents and those varying from Received Pronunciation were frowned upon (my own mother was from Birmingham but received elocution lessons as her parents thought her accent would hinder her), things are far more accepted these days.

Also, children do pick up accents from those around them. I once worked in a class with 5-7 year olds who had a teacher who had emigrated from Nigeria a decade or so before. She had the most beautiful accent and I noticed the children began saying some words, that they had lots of exposure to in school, like the word 'poem', with the same accent.

I would reinforce correct grammar at home and pronunciation if you wish, but I don't think it's worth changing schools.

Depends where you live, I suppose.

I'm also in the E Mids but clearly a different part to a pp as it's not normal to drop ts here at all.

You want to send them to private school because they’ve dropped their ts…

Here, I think you dropped this.

I went to private school. I speak like I'm on Eastenders

I ask my children if they have lost something if they drop their 't's' . I don't let it drop until they correct themselves. They have West Country accents which are bad enough without that too!

He’ll speak like his peers speak, wherever he is. Either accept it or move to an area near a school with an accent you prefer.

Do not send him to a private school with a “bo’l wa-er” accent he’d probably just get made fun of there…

Probably if you leave things along he’ll just end up with two accents, one for home and one for school

I think it's lighthearted... I hope it is... But if its not, get a life. This is one of those things that really really doesn't matter