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Please help. This is bad news isn't it?

38 replies

worrieddaughterrr · 19/09/2021 13:21

Posting for traffic, sorry.

My mother is in her sixties, type 2 diabetic and some other health issues. She has been sick with nausea, fatigue and shortness of breath for a couple of weeks. She tested for Covid and it was negative but began feeling worse a couple of days ago. I only found this out because my aunt called to say she had been admitted to hospital (I expect she didn't want to worry me). They suspected she was severely anaemic, this was confirmed today but she has lost two thirds of blood and her liver is deranged. Does this mean liver failure? She is getting a transfusion and is on antibiotics and oxygen. She has texted me but too out of it to talk. No visitors allowed and we are two hours away and we don't drive.

I'm really distraught. I feel like this is it and she won't come out of hospital. Has anyone experienced similar? I have a feeling she isn't telling me how bad it is (the message she sent didn't mention her liver, but my aunt texted me to say this). My aunt is on standby to take my mum home to stay with her and she was the one who took her to the hospital.

I don't really know what to do. I lost my father suddenly 15 years ago, though my mum and he were split up since i was a child. My mother raised me single handedly. I lost my mother in law to cancer a few years ago. I'm finding it hard to be positive right now.

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Talktalkchat · 19/09/2021 16:26

If you are in the NW and require a lift, please ask

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 19/09/2021 16:42

Nothing to add but I'm really hoping that it's not as serious as you fear. Best wishes to you and your mum Thanks

Gingernaut · 19/09/2021 16:46

Deranged liver function tests can occur due to gall bladder and bile duct issues - which is exactly what your DM has been diagnosed with.

It doesn't necessarily mean liver failure.

m0therofdragons · 19/09/2021 16:49

Ask if they are providing supported video calls for patients? This is what we are doing where I work. We tried to let visitors in but then had a covid outbreak because we’re not allowed to insist on lateral flow testing. We’ve had to stop visitors at the moment to protect patients but it’s really hard and we hate doing it.

worrieddaughterrr · 24/09/2021 07:58

Thanks for the replies everyone. Unfortunately it is bad news, my mum has multiple tumours on her liver and they are 99% sure it's cancer. Potentially secondary that began in her oesophagus. She is getting further scans to find out next steps but hopefully going home in the meantime.

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remotelycontrolledagain · 24/09/2021 08:00

I'm so sorry OP Thanks

MikeWozniaksMohawk · 24/09/2021 08:18

Flowers sorry OP

Dontjudgeme101 · 24/09/2021 08:35

So sorry op 💐💐💐

TrueRefuge · 24/09/2021 08:40

Oh I'm sorry OP Flowers Sending you and your mum all best wishes.

DamnUserName21 · 24/09/2021 08:55

Sorry to hear, OP.
Flowers

RumblyMumbly · 24/09/2021 11:50

I'm sorry about the prognosis @worrieddaughterrr & hope you get to spend some time with your Mum very soon Flowers

Billandbob · 24/09/2021 11:55

So sorry Flowers

monarchoftheglen · 24/09/2021 20:16

Sending love, OP.

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