If you’re too ill to look after your kids are you too ill for work?

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Genuinely looking for opinions on this as I’m not sure what I think.

DS has bronchiolitis, I was in hosp with him all day Thursday as he was quite poorly (111 wanted to send an ambulance but I drove him in)

While in hosp I became unwell myself (d&v in hospital toilets - while holding DS was not fun!) they let us go home 3am I had to phone someone to get us as no way I could drive. DH was at home with DD

Friday I was still awful but DS was even more unwell so had to go back in to hosp, DH took him this time and my parents came over to watch DD while I slept. All back home Friday night and DS is picking up (and was much more thoroughly checked as I wasn’t in a good state to insist this thurs)

DH is working from home this weekend, he worked Saturday and halfway through his shift also came down with the d&v, he managed to get through his work from his sick bed (he has form for working while unwell and made a mistake in the past because he shouldn’t have been working)

He finished work and went straight to bed, so hasn’t helped with kids/house all evening/night.

Hes just informed me that’s he’s planning to work this afternoon.
Is this madness? Our DS is still really unwell, DH is only a few hours since last bathroom run, the house is a tip and I’m exhausted too.

It depends. Do you need his income from today’s work? Will there be repercussions in his job if he doesn’t work?

Frankly making money comes above a tidy house if you have to make a choice. Do you need to work today too, but can’t because of his choice? As long as neither of you is taking advantage of the other then you just need to strictly prioritise things which MUST be done (paid work often being the main one) to get through times like this.

I have every sympathy with you though - what a horrible concatenation of circumstances.

So sorry about all the illness and hope you are all better soon. It is hard to know if DH ibu. A lot depends on how old are the DC, how vital is DH job, what about your job, how much can grandparents help....

It's a nightmare but you just have to both muddle through and pick up the tidying etc later. Some jobs just wouldn't understand.