To ask her if DS can see her DC?

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DS is 7, I was with my ex for 3 years and he has a 14 year old son. He moved in with us so we saw a lot of his son, and DS was close to him.

In May, I worked a night shift and his ex’s was over that night so ex was home alone with DS, and his son. When I got back the next day, DS was very quiet, in the end he told me he heard ex shouting at his son and then he saw him grab his arm and he wouldn't let go, until DS told him to stop (ex didn't think DS was downstairs). As soon as DS told me this I split up with my ex and I told his sons mum. She was grateful, and I don't think he sees ex now.

Recently, DS has been mentioning him and says he misses him and wants to play Minecraft with him etc.

Wibu to ask his mum if DS can see her son?

You can ask but I'd make it clear you understand if she's not keen

Sure you can ask.

I think it is OK to ask, but you may get a no.

You can only ask, and well done for putting your son first and ditching the bloke.

A bit of a confusing OP, but sounds like your DS and this 14yo are not related, so I wouldn’t ask.

Would a 14yo want to hang out with a 7yo he’s not related to or in a blended family with? I doubt it.

It wouldn't be unreasonable to send a brief message but it might also help to add that you fully appreciate a teenager may not want to spend time with a little one.