My four year old daughter doesn’t ever want to see her dad on a Sunday (which is their arranged day!)
In a nutshell, he was a rubbish partner when pregnant and also when I gave birth, barely there etc (always working or networking basically drinking etc!) so I’ve always been a single parent! I left the home when my daughter was 2 and have been independent and enjoying life with myself and my daughter ever since (weight lifted)!
When we left, she never asked where her dad was etc because she was so used to him not being around or when he was around he couldn’t be bothered to do anything with her etc.
He has zero contact with her Monday - Saturday, despite me saying he is welcome to come bath her, take her to the park, for food or even just FaceTime a few weeks but he doesn’t. He’s only got more involved the past few weeks as she’s started school eg wanting to look like a good parent coming to pick up!
She just gets in such a state when she knows she’s going with him and says she doesn’t want to and he doesn’t play with her and they don’t have fun etc! I feel for him as it must be heartbreaking but it’s also his fault for never trying his best.
Am I doing the right thing by always encouraging her to go but then letting her make the choice not to? X