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Partner seems selfish and unsupportive

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Watermelonsugarhi · 18/09/2021 09:02

We have been together 9 months, all fine and good. Very loving. Recently since they have gone back to work things have changed. I get they are tired and works extremely hard.
I opened up to them about how i'm feeling, admitted im struggling mentally and feeling so low and have done for a while but put on a brave face. Told them i called the doctor for anti depressants. Their response was they had a bad experience with an ex on them and didnt want me to take them.
So instead of being supportive and asking if i'm ok, thats all they could think about. I feel like its always a competition, like they have been working hard so therefore what am i complaining about.
She says alot of things to me without thinking and ends up making me cry. Today it was " well at 27 i was in a more committed long term relationship" i said oh ok what about us that wasn't a nice comment. Just small little digs and comments that hurt and either she will say its a joke or you've taken it the wrong way.
I just feel its always about her feelings and what she wants to do. Me always helping her, I batch cooked for her yesterday to help her out. Helped with all her house work. She doesnt do it for me.
I just don't know whats happened a few weeks ago i didnt feel like this about us. Its like this new side of her has just come out.

For background a work part time and study so work less than them.

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Watermelonsugarhi · 19/09/2021 20:22

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littleloopylou · 19/09/2021 20:25

I don't think that you are being unreasonable. Based on what you have described, it sounds like they made your depression all about them. So what if their ex had a bad experience on antidepressants? What's that to you?

pelosi · 19/09/2021 20:31

YANBU. She does sound selfish and thoughtless.

It’s all been 9 months, but your losses and put this one back in the sea Flowers

pelosi · 19/09/2021 20:31

*cut your losses

Merryoldgoat · 19/09/2021 20:46

I wouldn’t have much time for anyone who tried to prevent me from getting medical
Help when I needed it.

Watermelonsugarhi · 19/09/2021 21:03

Thank you, yes i don't know why she's trying to compare me and her ex. By the sounds of things he ex had trauma and need the tablets but i said to her i'm not your ex and that its helped me before in the past. I don't know i just thought she would be more supportive and its made me not want to discuss this with her which should not be the way with partners.

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