AIBU to panic 😩

[RaRaRabbit]

I am moving soon, to Borehamwood.

It's so close until I go and all I've heard is horror stories!!!
I had never been there before visiting the property.. the road itself seemed quiet, well kept houses on the road.

Anytime I mention I'm moving there people looked shocked, even to say they never would!
I'm confused and really worried now.
I have 2 young kids that obviously I'll be putting in the schools there.

I WAS so excited, I would be going from a flat to a house with a garden, now.. i don't know what to do. Apparently crime rate is high there too 😣 but, if I don't move I will be stuck where I am YEARS. This move has taken 4 years. I love the area I am in, love the schools etc. BUT I HATE the neighbour that lives above me to the point it effects my mental health and noone and I mean noone wants where I am or a flat. (Trust me, I've tried. . For years!)

WWYD!? please be kind, this is so stressful.

Have you lived there or do you live there!? Opinions pls.

I have friends there and really like it.

Any urban area will have good and bad, we live in a seaside town and people flock here for day trips but they don't see the homelessness and unemployment in the winter. We love it here.

Goodness it's hardly Outer Mongolia, it's still inside the M25!

You'll be fine. You have kids/schools so meeting new people will be easy.

Er. It's a bit non descript

But why are you buying a home in somewhere you know nothing about?

I'd take it over raising kids in a flat with an upstairs neighbour who's impacting my mental health. If it's a nice house and quiet street, it doesn't matter that there are horrible parts elsewhere surely?

@Dishwashersaurous

Er. It's a bit non descript

But why are you buying a home in somewhere you know nothing about?

I assumed social housing.

All depends, are you moving to North or South Borehamwood? It makes a huge difference!

Handhold.
People are arseholes.
I live nearby(ish) and it seems perfectly nice/fine. I feel much more unsafe in certain parts of central London. Its near radlett and elstree both are v desirable

You will be fine and having a garden will be great

Borehamwood is absolutely fine and many many families live there having a very normal pleasant and event-free life!

Who is telling you all this stuff and are they speaking from personal experience? Sounds like a load of out of date hearsay. Borehamwood certainly isn’t the most exciting place in the world but it’s no crime hotspot either, certainly no more than most towns within the M25. I know families who live in the area and really like it!

Every area has its good and bad .. as long as you mind your own business and don't engage with the bad .. your home will be what you make it
I live in what's thought of as a picturesque country village .. people don't realise it's annoying to have no shop , no public transport, nosy neighbours , tractors , horses , cyclists and bloody pheasants take over the road every day .. but do I balance it with the positives ? Yes I do
Enjoy your new home

Why are you buying a house in somewhere you know nothing about

There isn't much say in the area if you're in need of social housing. You go where they offer.
Op it's going to be fantastic to live in a house with a garden. You've probably been waiting a long time to rent somewhere bigger and better for your dc.

Stop worrying and start getting excited about the move. It'll also be a huge relief to get away from your nightmare neighbour!
Congratulations on your new home x

I don’t live there but I used to work there. It’s a bit rough, but no worse than many parts of outer London.

I’d take a nice house and nice neighbours in a crappy area over a flat with horrible neighbours any day! I’m sure it will be much more preferable. How many of those people saying they wouldn’t live there actually have experience of living there? I’m guessing none as they wouldn’t live there?! I’d go ahead with the move if I were you, it can’t be worse than the situation you’re in can it??

Fair enough.

A secure home with a garden will be brilliant with young children

I know nothing about London but I would take a house with a garden over a flat any day, especially with kids, it will literally change your life! Good luck!

You'll be fine. Don't panic. No affordable area in the suburbs of a city is ever going to be without its problems but that doesn't mean it will be terrible. It will be fantastic to have yoir new home. There will be challenges too, and that's life. No such thing as a happily ever after, just the start of a new chapter.

Sorry, my post is vague and I've had so much going on this was just a panic post!

Yes, social housing. I have been desperate to move and I finally have the chance and I feel like I will regret moving if it's as bad as everyone is saying.

This is a good point, it is 100% all hear say!!! None of these people have lived there and any of the forums or posts I do see from people that live there they're complaining so I'm sure aren't going to add anything positive to the post.

I love my flat but it's on an estate, I get interest in the flat until people reason what estate it's on and I never hear from them again, I've looked for years and finally been offered a swap.

It will be the South Side... near Rippon Way.

Thanks for the kind messages, it's appreciated as I've gone from pure excitement to panic over the last month.

Also, I grew up in London. Lived in a woman's refuge in Acton for a long time, Lived in East London and grew up in West London as a child.

I keep thinking back to when I was moved to where I am now, people laughing in the Refuge I was in saying how rough and terrible it was and I've found no problems.
Also, neighbour upstairs- terrible. Banging like they're coming through the ceiling, arguing with me, barking dog every day!! Dog digging the floors, it's awful. Really effected my mental health the last few years.

There is nowhere totally safe or totally unsafe. I live alone in an area considered by many undesirable but I love it & live my life freely.

Remember that most negative comments about places are made by people who have never visited and go ahead with the move while trying not to worry in the meantime as it will be wonderful having a house with your own front & back door and a garden after being in a flat with a problematic upstairs neighbour.

www.squiresestates.co.uk/news/seven-reasons-borehamwood-is-a-great-place-to-live.html

You’ll be fine x

You will be fine and premoving nerves are totally normal. They really are.

Have you a date yet?

Moving IS hard work however bad the situation is. Be easy on you.

We know it as Boring Wood, but I'd take boring over awful neighbour any day.
Good luck in your new home, I'm sure it'll be so much better than your current situation.

I lived in a rough area of Leeds as a student and had no issues at all with an area that was famous for crime and violence. Then I visited Harrogate (meant to be naice!) with my granny and got mugged 🤣 Hearsay is always the worst of the worst and rarely representative.

Absolute rubbish. Borehamwood is a great place to live. Granted I'm north just off the high St and not near where you're going but in general it's great. Yes there's always going to be rougher spots in every area but trust me I moved from Harlesden 3 years ago and Borehamwood is paradise in comparison. There really is no comparison. The high street is always busy and buzzing, it's full if young families from all backgrounds and close to lots of great areas. Everything will rest on your neighbours of course and you can't predict who'll they'll be wherever you go. Good luck with the move! I hope you're very happy here