to think the time is wrong to put the "past behind us" with my MIL at 34 weeks pregnant?

[mum2sons]

I have recived a letter from my MIL whom we havent been in contact with for a year saying let's put the past behind us as a new grandchild is coming soon. She has made no effort with my other son's, has bad mouthed me to everyone in the most cruel way (including my little niece and nephews)over the last 5 years and has caused me no end of hurt. My DH has not spoken to them for months due to way they treat us. My feeling is that they will be embaressed if they don't meet the new baby and that is what is scaring them now. However, my 3 year old does not even know who they are and they have not bothered with my 12 year old for years either so why should I bother? Sorry, long winded but I am feeling upset by this and wanted to know wise MNetter views.

Thanks Chocchip, but this wasn't my thread.

Mum2sons - I agree, just send the photo and keep in touch that way, but leave any contact up to your DH.

I send cards and photo's at birthdays and Christmas and they always e-mail DH to say thank you (that way no-one can say they didn't do it), but left to him, they wouldn't get sent.

GAWD,
My MIL launched a vicious attack on me when I was 20 weeks preg, blamed me for all her bad behaviour.
I was very upset and it really took a lot of the shine off my first pregnancy, so I can never forgive her for that, coupled with the fact that she doesn't seem to think she has done anything wrong!
I think it is great she is trying to make contact but she owes you an apology before you can move forward, and the timing is VERY wrong.
Get DH to explain that things will have to wait until after the baby is born.
You have far more interesting things to be thinking about!

You can't choose your family eh. Mind you, you can choose who you don't want to know. There are some people who just aren't worth the effort because all they can ever bring is trouble. Sounds harsh, but it's sadly true. You have to look out for your family.

I hope it works out - you don't need the stress!

Sorry, got a bit confused, all these MIL's sound the same to me.

Thanks everyone, lots of food for thought. Am laid up in bed with bronchitis at the moment so looks like it will all have to on hold for now anyway whilst I make sure I get better in time for the baby!