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My memory is shot - am I alone?

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FourteenSixteenTwentyTwo · 17/09/2021 20:51

As a teenager I had a fabulous memory and could recall pretty much anything.

Since life became more accountable (and especially since I have a child), it’s wavering - I can remember conversations I have with people and work related data, but films and books are gone within days. I read 5 books in the past two months - ask me what they were called and what happened and I can’t tell you a thing. Yet I can recall books I read 15 years ago.

I suppose I’m wondering if it’s it me personally, or if it’s the stress of the times - I’m a grown adult needing to remember a wealth of life admin, work shit, school things, social events, etc - and even though I made an effort of mindfully reading or watching (i.e putting my phone down and actually paying attention and rereading bits if my mind wandered) it’s still all so forgettable.

I think my life is made up with so much ‘real’ things we need to deal with that it doesn’t have the capacity to retain the entertainment fodder. But I don’t value that any less than ‘life’ things either. So

So AIBU to think this is an unfortunate consequence of having responsibilities? Or am I BU and it’s not normal?

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sevencontinents · 17/09/2021 23:18

Oh larkdupont yoy have made me chuckle. You obviously know me really well to make such statements. Nuances of this argument are clearly lost on you. Hmm

LarkduPont · 17/09/2021 23:22

Glad I made you chuckle. You make me despair.

OriginalLilibet · 17/09/2021 23:22

Are you on any medication? Several medications that I have taken for depression and anxiety almost completely eliminated my memory. I would frequently do things twice at work because I had forgotten that I had already done it (not only small things, I once wrote a 30 slide presentation twice on successive days…)

VestaTilley · 17/09/2021 23:28

You’re not alone. I’m 35 and mine is dreadful; I put it down to having a toddler, PND and taking antidepressants, but it’s been declining for a good while now anyway.

Modern working life plus socialising and activities mean a lot is bound to be forgotten, but mine is so much worse since having a DS, and it has not “gone back to normal”.

FOJN · 17/09/2021 23:39

You are not alone. I can't remember books or conversations either. Ditto concerns about early onset dementia, although I am older than you. Its got worse for me with the menopause.

On the plus side I can rewatch drama series I really enjoyed first time round and have so little recall they're nearly as good on the second or even third viewing.

Firebird83 · 17/09/2021 23:53

Yes! I used to have a great memory but it’s really declined over the last few years. I have a 3 year old so I wonder if it is related to pregnancy/parenthood.

HSHorror · 17/09/2021 23:54

For me several years of lack of sleep.
But maybe vitamin deficiency.

Ive already had the omegas dont drink or smoke.
Like a pp ive done a couple of things twice.

Firebird83 · 17/09/2021 23:57

I’ve recently found myself forgetting conversations I’ve had and things people have told me. That never would have happened a few years ago. I’m only in my early 30s!

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