so I have 2 kids dd who has just turned 6 and gone into year 1 and ds who is 4 who has just started reception, both my kids were at the nursery within the school, my daughter loved reception last year and my son the nursery. She’s always absolutely loved school and always thrived,she’s never cried going in at all she’s usually always running in happy. My son always went into nursery happy too, so my daughter started year 1 last week and my son started the week later reception on Monday. Dd was absolutely fine going in last week as normal, my son started Monday and was fine until yesterday. Yesterday both of the kids were waiting to go in outside the gate and they were both saying we don’t want to go in, my son is a very shy little boy but my daughter has never come out with anything like this before so o was just shocked. Ds ended up going in crying and having to be took of me, he had been absolutely fine all week but I just put it down to maybe he was getting a bit over whelmed as this was his first full week at full time school and he is obviously still so young only being 4 ( he’s a end of July baby). I picked him up and teacher said he had been fine all day, however when I got him home he kept coming up to me saying I don’t want to go tomorrow some kids aren’t nice to me. I told him I’d talk to the teacher if that’s how he felt. My daughter burst into tears last night telling me how she wasn’t happy because since Monday this week reception, year 1 and year 2 all play together at the same time on the playground and that ds never lets her play with any one else and always wants her to go and play with him , he’s a very shy child and as soon as I found out about this on Monday I was a bit worried because I want my son to get some independence as he is so shy and if he’s not with me he’s with his sister he has a very strong attachment with dd. I kept telling her she can tell the teacher and THat it’s okay to tell her brother that she wants to play with her friends and I was getting concerned about dd not playing with her usual friend group. She burst into tears last night saying her friends are telling her they won’t play with her because her little brother is always with her and they don’t want to play with him and that he’s not nice so she ended up going to play with ds and his reception friend. I told her she needs to tell the teacher at play time and they will sort it out. She brought it up again to me this morning and I told ds that he has to let his sister play with her friends too. Ds went in fine today no tears, and dd burst into tears as soon as we got to her door even her teacher came over to me and asked what was wrong as she is never like this, I told them about what dd had been telling me and he said he would speak to ds reception teacher ( who was also dds teacher last year ) and that she could have told them if she felt this way.
I just feel so bad, AIBU to be concerned that they are together at playtimes as well as home, I mean obviously it’s not a bad thing they are brother and sister but I’m just concerned as my son is so shy and dependant that he isn’t making other friends and that he’s only staying with dd and then obviously she’s not getting to play with her friends.
She’s very sensitive, she always tries to make everyone else happy and play with them if they want her to she won’t say no. Is this normal? She’s never been like this about school before but now it’s got to the point where she is saying she wants to change schools.