SIL problem

[Mostlyboymum42]

So my SIL (partner’s sister) messaged me a few days ago to say she was going to be in town one day next week and could she have our son for a few hours to take him round to see her son and his girlfriend. (They are grown up with their own house, jobs and three dogs).

Our son is 11 months old and has only seen her once in the last 6 months, which was last week and that was only because my partner asked her if we could pop round to see her. She has been in a relationship since just before we last saw her in February and hasn’t bothered with us or asked about our son since, even though we’ve both tried to make an effort with her by asking how she is etc but she just doesn’t reply to us or ends conversations with a thumbs up.

She suddenly wants to have our son for a few hours to go and show him off when he has no idea who she is and she knows nothing about him.

I am probably going to say they are all welcome to come round here to see our son….AIBU?

Nope. You can go with him and meet them but that’s just crazy!

You are not. I wouldn’t lend my young son to anyone he was not familiar with, much less so to go and show to other people you don’t know.

I understand this happening if your SIL was a very involved auntie your child is very familiar with but being practically a stranger… fuck that, of course not.

No you're not BU. If she'd like to see your son she does it with you there or not at all!

No, either you go too or they all come to you
Bit of an odd request if she's not close to you all

Depends on your son. Some babies are very cool around others and meeting someone once would be enough for them to feel comfortable. Others are not and would be very anxious.

If the latter, it's an obvious no

No way!

Absolutely not being unreasonable. You don’t just ask to borrow someone’s child like they’re some kind of toy.

My SIL has only taken DD out for the first time without me or DH very recently and DD is 2, and SIL has seen her at least once a week since she was born.

You can take your son over to see his cousin if you are available and want to but no way would i hand my child over to an in law i barely see who doesnt know my child.

In our family it would be a recipe for screaming and upset (and that's just the grown ups )