Quick background... Separated from ex husband 2 years ago, he moved out 19 months ago. We have 2 children (10 boy and 6 girl) and we share 70/30 custody (me doing 70).
I live in the marital home, he pays a small contribution towards the mortgage and child maintenance, he rents.
I worked PT after kids and gave up my career as didn't work with ex working away all the time. I started a new career a couple of years ago and I went FT last year.
Despite filing for divorce ages ago (on grounds of multiple cases of adultery), we are still in mediation. He quit the first lot as he said the mediator was biased and the one it has taken us 3 sessions to get him to stop lying on his Form E - he is self-employed and wouldn't declare his income.
Anyway, he's declared his income which is WELL into 6 figures and 4 times my salary (although my salary is too high for benefits, my mortgage is ridiculously high as south east). He wants me to leave the family home and pass to him, give him 50% equity. For info, this still wouldn't allow me to purchase to house the kids as I can't borrow enough. He WILL NOT budge on this, so another session wasted.
He has now also stopped paying the mortgage and I can't afford to live anymore. I have also now used up all my savings on mediation. So what now? I can't afford mediation, I can't paying my mortgage and I can't actually manage my job right now either. I work 40 hours a week from home and do all the childcare (school runs 4 days a week) and burned out last week from exhaustion and stress. And we cannot go to court, there are not enough assets in the marriage to cover court costs.
So, do I give in, let him have the house and put an end to the stress? I can't fight, I have no money but he can keep fighting as he has plenty. Please someone wave a magic wand :-(