Husband’s snoring driving me mad!!!!

[junns]

Every night he keeps me awake or wakes me in the middle of the night with his very loud snoring. Even if he’s not snoring he makes a clicky noise in his nose every single time he breathes in. He’s tried the strips and the stuff you put up your nose but it doesn’t seem to make much difference.

I’ve tried sleeping in our son’s room and on the sofa but you can hear him through the whole flat so it’s pointless really.

I don’t want to wear earplugs as the ones I’ve tried previously are not comfortable and I don’t think they could drown him out fully anyways.

It’s honestly doing my head in, I probably get about 5 hrs sleep a night at most before my toddler wakes in the morning. I feel like booking myself into an Airbnb for a week just to get some proper peace and quiet!!!

Sounds like sleep apnea which is dangerous. He needs to do a sleep study and if he gets a cpap machine the snoring will stop.

He needs to be checked for sleep apnoea. Is he overweight?

Feel for you but seriously you need to get him checked by a doctor and possibly referred to a sleep clinic. He may have sleep apnoea as my friends DH did which can be potentially life threatening for him. And if not there are other options to stop the snoring

I know it's not what you want to hear but I've worn ear plugs every night for 28 years and there are some really good ear plugs that I do find comfy - I also have a white noise machine in the room next to my side of the bed and the 2 things together keep me sane! He still occasionally wakes me - especially if an ear plug falls out but I stick it back in, turn him on his side and I generally get back to sleep - it's tough and I feel for you as sleep deprivation is the worst!

You have my deepest, deepest sympathy. We ended up in counselling because my DH didn’t want to wear a CPPAP machine because they’re not sexy. He also didn’t like me sleeping on the couch, and we don’t have a spare room, and teenagers don’t want me in with them. I had had 17 years of sleep deprivation and I was seriously over it. Crying tired. Literally. I ended up reading the United Nations official charter on sleep deprivation used as torture - and how it was illegal. I showed him how many decibels his snoring was and found equivalents - and why it was unacceptable. I told him that him not caring about my quality of sleep was selfish. That him not caring about his kids not having a father because of the long term effects of sleep apnoea was selfish also. He works in the fitness industry so isn’t overweight. He tried to deny that he had apnoea. He agreed to a sleep study and was stunned to discover that he stopped breathing an average of 46 times per hour. Even more stunned to discover that sometimes in the middle of the night I would fantasize that one night he WOULDN’T start again, just so I could get some bloody sleep. He now has a cpap machine and won’t go anywhere without it because he wakes up refreshed and it’s fixed his bloody reflux too. It’s not perfect but it’s a hell of a lot quieter than his snoring.

I’ve just googled the symptoms of sleep apnea and he doesn’t have any of them - apart from the loud snoring. So don’t think it’s that. Funnily enough it’s always worse after he’s had a few beers

@JudyP do the earplugs completely block the noise or just 80-90%? If I can hear him at all I can’t sleep.

[quote junns]@JudyP do the earplugs completely block the noise or just 80-90%? If I can hear him at all I can’t sleep.[/quote]
They aren't 100% but I can't hear traffic or the dog barking with them in - with the combo of ear plugs and white noise machine it's def so much better - also I try to be asleep before him ( not romantic I know) but if I can get over to sleep first my night goes a lot better - and if he won't turn on his side I fully wake him up and he is always so apologetic that he has woken me that he tries to stay on his side ( at least until I get back to sleep) it's not ideal I know but it's his only big flaw...

An elbow in the face used to fix my exes drunken snores.
Then I'd pretend to be fast asleep.