So my partner works 5am-1.30pm. We have an 18 month old who is currently sick and I am 4 months pregnant. Pregnancy was planned. I am a sahm. For the last 4 days I've had progressively worse back pain. It's like sharp shooting pain on my left hand lower back and particularly bad if I bend down and getting back up. I also have pain in my foot randomly. Before this I had severe morning sickness and couldn't reallt function at all. Barely left the house. This has made housework really hard but I am the kind of person that will keep pushing on anyway. So I do my utmost to keep on top of everything. I try to do as many home cooked meals as I can during the week, try to do as much with my toddler as possible and try to keep on top of the housework. What I am finding harder at the moment are jobs like cleaning bathroom and mopping and keeping on top of the garden. The place is getting pretty dirty to be honest, cluttered shelves and presses, dirty floors, scummy showers etc and a large overgrown garden.
My partner is good with the baby in that he will change her nappies, entertain her when he comes home and will put her down for bed. He will clean kitchen (clean down counters, load dishwasher) and will put on a wash. The one thing he does that I don't do is the food shop as I don't drive. I have just gotten my learners permit. Other than that I do everything else which i generally don't mind. I don't think he has ever cleaned the bathroom. He will only do anything else if I ask him to like hoovering, changing bedsheets, cleaning showers, mopping. I respect the fact that he goes out to work and that it is a huge burden to have financial responsibility hence why I take on so much of the responsibilities.
Anyway, today on the way to an appointment I brought up that I was having trouble with keeping up with the housework. That with my back and looking after the baby that it's becoming really hard. I suggested having someone come in either once a fortnight or once a month to help me. My partner straight out said we can't afford it. I have researched it and it would be approx 70-80 for 4/5 hours of work. I know that we could afford it. I was just so angry upset and humiliated to be honest. I then said well you will have to help me more then as I'm finding it really hard and he got angry at that also. He eventually said something like "fine ill do everything". It turned into a heated argument and we aren't speaking.
So I want to know am I being unreasonable?