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AIBU?

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To be really pissed off and let down?

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ShakeysGirl · 04/12/2007 21:52

Dp is in Spain on holiday with his dad. He left this morning about 3am. He asked me to call him to say goodnight at midnight as he was staying with his parents so i did but he was to tired to talk and said he would call me in the morning. He text me as he was boarding the plane saying he would call me and the kids when he get there. Eta 9am this morning. But there has been no call\text. I feel let down and forgotten about. I'm angry with him so please tell me if IABU Am tempted to ignore it if he does call

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cheeset · 04/12/2007 21:57

something may have cropped up, lost luggage, bus broke down, stranded etc, may of had a day of it. Try not to jump to conclusions wait and see.

alicet · 04/12/2007 22:00

I would be pissed off too. But don't ignore his call as that would make you just as bad. Like cheeset says there may be a reasonable explanation which you won't know if you ignore him

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ShakeysGirl · 04/12/2007 22:08

He's done this before tho last year. He went away with his mates and didn't call me for a week! His excuse? He didn't get chance! Then he went away again with his dad in may but called me every other day. Out of sight out of mind i guess

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cheeset · 04/12/2007 22:10

When the kids have gone to bed and the phone rings, I often tell my dh to say to whoever is on the phone that I'm in the bath or gone to bed. I am that tired I can't be bothered to talk and I know I will come across as miserable or not interested.

Ok so it's not like he's a friend on the phone but maybe he thinks you deserve him to be a bit more chatty and friendly and more interested so he may ring you when he's less tired and crabby?

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ShakeysGirl · 05/12/2007 10:57

Still no call or text. Anything could have happened to him and he knows i'll be worried.

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NAB3littlemonkeys · 05/12/2007 10:57

call him?

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ShakeysGirl · 05/12/2007 12:09

I just checked Facebook and he has updated his status to xxx is sorry and will call today, i always screw up but i love you.
So, he just couldn't be bothered. and now i am sulking but have stopped myself from sending him a childish 'don't bother' message back. At least i know he's safe. Still pissed off that he promised me that he would keep in touch with us but couldn't spare us 2 minutes of his precious time although he's made time for Facebook

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NAB3littlemonkeys · 05/12/2007 18:40

Is he called Paul?

lizandlulu · 05/12/2007 20:16

i would be very p**d of too. i have a hubby how is very like this. so i know how you feel. i hate the way men can just go off, leave women with the kids and do what the hell they want.
other people say 'straighten him up, dont let him get away with it' but its not that easy is it!

ginnedupumpkin · 05/12/2007 20:27

I wouldn't have let my dp go on holiday on his own. Either we all go or none of us go.

But I'm just a mean old cow

macdoodle · 05/12/2007 22:07

Sorry he has found time to post on FB but not call you bloody arse

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ShakeysGirl · 05/12/2007 22:15

NAB why do you ask that? He has called but i missed his call i don't mind him going off on holiday but i do like to feel thought of and also to know that he's safe. He has promised to take me away in the new year and to go away as a family in may.

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NAB3littlemonkeys · 06/12/2007 08:10

From your MN name I knew someone with a similar name and just wondered if you were married to him.

TenLordsaLapin · 06/12/2007 10:12

NAB, see here pls

NAB3littlemonkeys · 06/12/2007 10:41

Done.

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