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AIBU?

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Aibu? Trigger warning - sexual abuse

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teleskopregel · 16/09/2021 10:30

DC has a history of sexual abuse and has been in therapy for 3 years since the age of 6.

The fall-out of reporting the abuse is still evident, with so much slander against our family and severing of friendships. I suspect that the slander has a lot to do with the mother of a child who was also abused. This mother was a close friend of mine. We reported the abuse together, and then she withdrew the allegations, ghosted me completely and when I did see her by chance, refused to speak to me. Mutual friends began also ignoring us after this and then I finally realised that she was not only most likely slandering us, she was also doing nothing about her child's abuse. That was shocking to me, and it hurts even now to think about her child, who was the best friend of our DC.

This is the AIBU. DC went back to school and told me yesterday they had seen and been approached by this other child and their dad and had a chat. This is the first time in three years that they have seen one another. They were not supposed to be going to the same school and I never anticipated this. I am now wondering what to do.

Do I do what I really want to do, and that is go up and tell the parents to stay away from our child, involve the school and keep these children separated?

Do I attempt to make contact and see what happened three years ago?

Part of me wants to go ballistic and threaten police involvement if they go near DC. DC is finishing their therapy next week and I cannot believe that this could trigger the need for more therapy. They have done so so well.

I know that I am not thinking clearly, though, and I need some advice.

OP posts:
glasgowLil · 16/09/2021 18:54

Hi op - what a hideous situation. I think you need to talk to the safe guarding lead at your child’s school and/or your social worker for advice about what to do. Good luck.

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