Is it normal?

[AskingAQuestion11]

Is it normal for a step mother to stop doing pretty much everything they used to help out with for the step child once their own DC is born?

I.e. used to help take to school but now DC is in before school/after school club or parents have to ask other people to help the days they can't.

Used to take them to do things at the weekends, now never does.

Used to be happy to help out if parents were stuck for childcare the odd time but now is often too busy.

Just generally seemed to make more of an effort beforehand.

YANBU - it shouldn't change.

YABU - it's normal.

@moynomore

You definitely shouldn't feel bad about refusing the things you mention OP. Not at all. In my earlier post I was thinking more like not taking them on nice days out with you and the baby anymore or things like that.

If we go out on a weekend where DSC are with us then of course they come too. I am spending more time out of the house at the moment seeing my family with baby which DSC don't usually come to so I'm not there as much as I was probably. But they are always with H obviously, not just left or contact cancelled or anything!

Thing is, I probably did do more stuff with them before, more activities, baking, crafts, planned days out more often etc.. but that stuff was dwindling before baby really just due to age more than anything! And yeah now a lot of the time I'm knackered so not doing as much of that sort of thing.