AIBU to find this an insult?

[Maggie178]

Light hearted. Currently the only female working within a team of men. They call me one of the boys.
YANBU - who wants to be a boy?! It's an insult
YABU - it means they accept you and unfortunately will not rein in their childish banter

You’re being deliberately “woke”

It’s nice to be part of team

Say “morning ladies” when you arrive

They are being inclusive. No need to overthink it

When my lot say that I say "team. One of the team"

And I point out they're men not boys

Is it an excuse to carry on with unacceptable sexist language and behavior? If so YANBU.

@Brefugee

When my lot say that I say "team. One of the team"

And I point out they're men not boys

The first part of that is fine.

Can just point out to you that they can call themselves boys if they want to.

Just trying to be inclusive - but it sure no guy would want to be ‘one of the girls’

The words 'insult' and 'lighthearted' are pretty contradictory...

Can just point out to you that they can call themselves boys if they want to.

Sure they can. But they're still not boys.

@Looubylou

Is it an excuse to carry on with unacceptable sexist language and behavior? If so YANBU.

^^This.

Their humour isn't sexist just childish

I'd just see it as being one of the team, I wouldn't see it as an insult at all.

As someone who has never fit in with any girls at all, I’d take it as a compliment and I’d actually be delighted about it if they said I was “one of the boys”.

Well you can push team instead of boys but I doubt that will stop them being childish if that's the dynamic.

As others have said if this gives them air cover for sexist “banter” then YANBU. Otherwise you are overthinking and it’s probably meant as a cack-handed compliment.

I've always been "one of the lads" in my part time job, working with a bunch of male security guards. I like it personally, I am an outrageous flirt (although it is always just for fun) and it is a safe space to have a laugh with my colleagues. They obviously know I'm a woman (and wouldn't let anything happen to me) but it also means they don't stand on ceremony and if they are doing something outside of work, I get an invite. As part of the team instead of a token woman.

It's definitely insulting to women. They're intimating that they don't usually accept women but you're one of the 'good' ones because you're just like them.

It's not insulting to women. They're intimating that they accept everyone as equal and don't see any difference based on gender.

Our (80% women) team at work refers to one another as 'the lads', so I don't think I'd be bothered about this!

Wouldn’t bother me at all. They’re just saying they see you as no different to any other member of the team.