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Anyone else's Grandma....

425 replies

me4real · 16/09/2021 03:50

I happened to see this mentioned somewhere presumably as a joke, but my nan insisted on being called Grandma, as she said nan was a goat etc etc.

I hadn't heard the above reason until my uncle mentioned it a while back. Also presumably she thought it common.

I always thought it was sooo formal - quasi-Victorian, although she will've been born in about 1915 or something. She died in the early 90s. I don't recall ever challenging the status quo.

She wasn't well off financially or anything.

Anyone else?

OP posts:
moohoop · 16/09/2021 07:34

Always called my grandmother Nan, my mum wanted to be called nan/nanny by my kids - bit mother-in-law is called Grandma.

When it comes to my turn I quite like nana 🤷🏻‍♀️

Fireplace12 · 16/09/2021 07:36

We’ve always used grandma in this house. Much prefer it to nanny.

Ellarain · 16/09/2021 07:38

I called both Grandmothers Nanny, DH called his Nanan.

MrsMop1964 · 16/09/2021 07:38

I prefer grandma. I was 45 when I became one but I hate 'nan', 'nana' and 'nanny' (depsite using 'nana' for my own grandmothers) I couldn't be more working class

supadupapupascupa · 16/09/2021 07:43

Mine were Grannie and Nanna. My kids have Grandma and Gran. I like to have different names for everyone. It makes life easier

riotlady · 16/09/2021 07:45

I had two Grandmas and a Granny, all very working class- don’t think Grandma is posh or old fashioned at all.

My mum is a Granny, I quite fancy being a Nana just to mix things up a bit.

Gorl · 16/09/2021 07:47

Count yourself lucky, mine insisted on being called Grandmother!

She was actually a very warm and generous person. She was just very posh and had strict ideas about titles.

My other grandmother was a Gran. I don’t know anyone who had Nans / Nanas - Gran and Granny was much more common when I was growing up. It may be a regional thing (I’m in Scotland).

Gorl · 16/09/2021 07:47

(That should say were, not was!)

2pinkginsplease · 16/09/2021 07:53

Both my grans were alive when my niece was born so to distinguish between her grans my mum asked to be called grandma, so my 2 have followed suit.

They have a granny(my gran) , a gran (mil) and grandma(my mum)

Works well for us.

awesmum · 16/09/2021 07:57

I had never heard of Nan or nanny until
In my late teens.
I think of it as someone who you pay for childcare for or a goat.

Clawdy · 16/09/2021 07:58

It's interesting that there are names very similar to Nana in other countries, Nonna in Italy, Nanni in India, Nain in Wales, and probably more!

SquigglePigs · 16/09/2021 08:06

I haven't heard that reason but have had "nannies are paid childcare" as the reason for Grandma over Nanny.

Neonplant · 16/09/2021 08:17

I call my grandparents grandma and grandad. I think it's regional, but I've always felt nan sounds unpleasant, like it's not a proper word.

Chloemol · 16/09/2021 08:30

In our family it’s grandma ( and grandad)

Imissmoominmama · 16/09/2021 08:35

I had Grandmas. I think the word Nan sounds hard, so when my time comes, I’d like to be Grandma too.

Seymour5 · 16/09/2021 08:37

My children had a Scottish granny and an English nana. My grandchildren have the same. I couldn’t be anything but granny or gran.

nzborn · 16/09/2021 08:42

I had a Kiwi Grandmother and a British Nana.
I am determined to be Grandma and nothing else.

TheSpiral · 16/09/2021 08:42

My nana was a working class Cockney and she also said Nanny was a goat. She was nana surname, and my other grandmother was also nana surname.
Weirdly my mum, daughter of “don’t call me nanny that’s a goat” nana, has chosen to be called Nanny. So my kids have nanny and gran.

Mistlewoeandwhine · 16/09/2021 08:45

I’m N.Irish so I’ve always used the word Granny. Now I live in England and my MIL announced when I was pregnant that she would be Grandma. I personally think it sounds ugly - like an ancient lady in a rocking chair - but we just went along with it to keep her happy. MIL is definitely a bit of a snob too.

Toddlerteaplease · 16/09/2021 08:47

It was always grandma in my family. Born in 1914 & 1915.

TitoMojito · 16/09/2021 08:48

Both of mine were Gran Surname. I'm in Scotland.

HHSchultz · 16/09/2021 08:49

I think it is regional, always Granny in my Scottish family. I also have a vague memory of reading it is/ was Class related, ie Nana was more Working Class. I suppose it would sound odd if the Queen was referred to as Nana. I do remember a programme years ago where you could hear her being called Granny by the Grandchildren.

Teenagers2grownups0 · 16/09/2021 08:49

@Finknottlesnewt

In Southern England it has historically been very easy to see what 'class' someone comes from by the use of certain words. Female Grandparent is one of these. Nan /Nanny - working class (code for perceived lower class)

Grandma - Middle class.

Granny. - Upper class/Aristocracy

Nanny - A woman paid to care for children in the private home.

Other similar ' class identifiers' are the use of Dinner /Tea in place of Lunch/Dinner. Serviette/Napkin. Sitting room/Lounge. Settee/Sofa. (hundreds more..)

Obviously time has moved on and lines have thankfully blurred - but those are the origins.

This. @Finknottlesnewt has reflected how I grew up. I had a grandma and a granny though so somewhat mixed but Nan/nanny was definitely seen as ‘common’. My mother did also concern herself on the settee/sofa thing etc too.

What I have learnt in life though is that properly ‘posh’ people don’t give a toss what people think and just get on with it, it’s the aspirational ‘middle class’ who occupy themselves with these things.

That said, I still can’t stand nanna or nanny.

BoredZelda · 16/09/2021 08:56

My mum wanted to be Grandma. Her mum was Grandma. I’d have preferred MIL also to be grandma but we gave her the choice and she wanted Granny, which I don’t particularly like, but it does mean we don’t get confused with who is who. We have Granda and late FIL was Grandad. I just think Granny and Grandad sounds old.

thelegohooverer · 16/09/2021 08:59

I wonder why this elicits such extraordinarily strong feelings and opinions. Do people feel as strongly about grandfather names?

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