To think he is cheating?

[Strawberryskittles22]

Me & DH are on the long road of TTC #2.
I know we are both finding it hard as our 1st child only took 4 months of TTC and I know I was lucky in that.
However recently I have this feeling that all is not okay. He has been staying late at work 3 - 4 evenings at work and showering there (not usual and not a manual labour type job) and being oddly secretive with his phone (think taking it to toilet with him, turning off overnight)
I have tried to talk about it to him and he denies anything is happening but seems distant. I know we are both finding this TTC journey hard but I just don't know what to do.

I think you need to try and find out for sure if he is cheating. It does sound suspicious, especially because it's not his usual behaviour. Showering at work when he doesn't usually, it definitely seems odd.

It does sound a bit suspicious. Unless there is a gym at work?
Anyway how are you going to find out for sure? What’s the plan?

If this is a recent big change in his behaviour.. then you need to trust your instincts .. its all we have .. only you know if this is not the norm for him.. 🌸

Ask him out right in a way he has no space to wriggle from.
Explain your thinking, calmly and without distraction
State if true you simply wish to know and not be lied to
State it is important to know, especially prior to having another baby.
State your concerns

Wait and see.
If he engages in meaningful answers.
Takes you seriously
Is not offhand or dismissive
Explains the showering and without notice happily shows you his phone, as a complete one off and only one this one occasion to calm your fears - you are alright
If he doesn’t- don’t try to have another baby with him

It sounds very suspicious. Secrecy with the phone and suddenly switching it off overnight implies something to hide. I'd probably try to get proof without alerting him, do you have a friend who could 'see' what time he actually leaves work?

I discovered my ex was cheating because his behaviour was suspicious and then a friend saw him on a dating app. Gut instinct is usually right sadly.

What is his explanation for showering at work?

Listen to you gut and for fuck's sake stop trying to get pregnant.

So I decided enough was enough and demanded on Friday night to know what's going on. And sadly my suspicions were true. He's met someone at work and this has been going on for 3 months. I can't believe it. This morning I felt a bit sick, tired, sore boobs but I'm too scared to do a test after what he's told me he's been doing behind my back. I have PCOS so really irregular periods. Feeling worried and lost right now.

Have you got someone in your family or a close friend that you can talk to about what's happened? We can't tell you what to do, it has to be your decision. No words for his disgusting behaviour.
You concentrate on yourself and your child. Sort your finances before he does.

I’m sorry this is happening to you OP

I'd say red flags, my ex her dh apparently does quite a bit of overtime and I certainly wonder if he has a bit on the side, as it were, but then there's the pickle in getting the necessary information to confirm it.

Oh op, I'm sorry

Sorry. Make you decision before you do a test.

Ah I'm sorry,that's awful op.

I know everyone says this but do you have someone in real life you can really sit down and talk to about this ? Perhaps someone there to support whilst you do a test ?

One thing at a time op. Take care of yourself first.

Take care OP

I'm glad you know the truth OP...

I'm sorry it's what you suspected... please take good care of yourself..