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To increase my hours

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Californiadreaming82 · 15/09/2021 19:36

I work 3 days a week in an office based role. I went down to 3 days after the birth of my daughter 4 years ago. We now have 9 month old twin boys and I recently returned to work.

My daughter just started reception and so I have two days at home with the twins and obviously do the school runs on those days too. I’m exhausted with the physical and emotional demands of the two days off and am considering working an extra day.

I am feeling horribly guilty that I’m in such a privileged position to be able to work three days both from a financial and flexible employer point of view and really worry what people will think of me for essentially saying I don’t want extra time with my children (and I also judge myself for this) when so many other people are desperate to work part time but can’t. For reference if I went up for 4 days on one day I would work school hours from home so I could do drop off: pick up on that day still and the twins would be in nursery. It would mean a longer day in the office on another day to make up the hours so I wouldn’t see them all before bed that day. Please tell me honestly what you think
AIBU to want to increase my hours and essentially decrease the time with my children!

OP posts:
Booknooks · 15/09/2021 19:38

Your children will be somewhere safe, probably having a load of fun! People will judge you whatever you do- work too much, don't work enough- do what's right for you and for your family, and don't feel bad about it.

Smarshian · 15/09/2021 19:41

Absolutely do it if you would prefer to. I often see women having these dilemmas but rarely for men. No one ever questions them staying in full time work.
You do what is right for you.

Wole · 15/09/2021 19:41

I'm assuming you are mum? If so, don't even sweat it, dad wouldn't feel bad if he worked full time.

Californiadreaming82 · 15/09/2021 19:58

Thank you! I am mum, my husband works full time. I always thought working 3 days would be the best of both worlds, which it really was with 1 child, I just find the 3 of them a struggle

OP posts:
Keeva2017 · 15/09/2021 20:00

Judgey judges are not worth bothering with. You love your children but you need more headspace which work gives you. Go for it. Happy mum happy little monsters.

thatsnotmyzoo · 15/09/2021 21:36

OP I have recently done just this and I only have one. Do it!

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