AIBU to think marriage counselling could work?

[TellMeYourTruths]

Has anyone been separated for an extended period & actually successfully rekindled their marriage after therapy?

Husband and I separated in December 2019, he was staying here during the pandemic as we have 2 young DC, since then he’s also here most nights to see the kids & helps with bedtime. We have spoken about separating for good early on during 2020, but in the last few months I am having second thoughts & still feel like I love him. Since revealing this to him, he’s been very honest with me in saying he’s not sure if he’s in love anymore. He loves me & is attracted to me still. However he can’t bring himself to confirm it’s fully over, somethings stopping him. We are considering therapy to see where it takes us, maybe give us both clarity.

Has anyone actually gone through the process of marriage counselling & found it useful? Did you manage to stay together?

I really need some encouraging stories ladies, I don’t think I can handle the heartbreak 😩🤦🏻‍♀️

Are you confident that he really wants to work on your marriage? Or is he just going along with it a tad reluctantly because you want to?

“I love you but I’m not in love with you” is usually pretty damning, that’s what I’m getting at.

I don’t want to be hurtful though !

@GreenClock

This is what I’m thinking too. I’ve asked him if he’s doing it just for me, but he’s said he’s not. He said he’s confused & wonders if therapy is going to give us some clarity.

Maybe I’m just in denial 🤦🏻‍♀️

Time to go back to the old arrangement, whatever that was.
His words are hurtful and you are confused. Time apart will help you both figure out if it’s what you really want.
If he’s there in the evening go for a walk. Don’t encourage him to stay for dinner. Let him have time with the children but give yourself space.
If it doesn’t work out all you have done is confuse the kids by letting them think you are working it out.