Nursery question

[twoundertwo2]

Hey all.
My DD has been attending 2 full days at nursery for over a year now.
Recently, pretty much every day I pick her up, her clothes are soaking wet and cold and she's shivering. She's had a cold for months and it doesn't help when the staff are allowing her to stay wet for at least a few hours.
I always pack 2/3 outfit changes and they never use them.
Yesterday when I picked her up she was cold and shivering so I asked the lady when did she get so wet .. her answer was " she played outside with water at lunchtime" I picked her up at 3:30 so for over 3 hours my DD has been left and slept in soaking clothes.
I understand that kids get dirty and play with water etc and I don't want to be that precious parent but do you think it would be ok to have a conversation with the nursery staff? Or is this normal nursery practice.. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I don't know how to approach this as I am really annoyed

Definitely not ok

Not normal and not fair on your daughter.

Do you supply a change of clothes for her?

Not okay. DS has his clothes changed constantly at nursery. I pick him up straight after tea so he's sometimes a bit mucky from eating but if he got wet, he's always in nee clothes

Not normal at all, I'd definitely be having a word.

Although I'd really question if this was the best environment for my child if they needed stuff like this pointing out to them. It's pretty basic care to change clothes that get wet.

Not ok. My DD always comes home in dry clothes, with a bag full of wet ones she's been changed out of.

@dementedpixie

Do you supply a change of clothes for her?

Yes. I always send 2/3 spare leggings & T-shirts

Thanks everyone. Good to know I'm not exaggerating by feeling annoyed. Yesterday I could've cried when I picked her up, I felt so sorry for her. I will send them an email tonight.

The OP clearly says she packs two or three changes of clothes and they don’t use them.

Absolutely flipping not ok. Even if you didn't send clothes, a decent nursery should have a few spare bits.

As a nursery worker I always feel so angry reading threads like this, keeping a child dry is a pretty basic thing to do!

I would email and reiterate to the staff at drop off that you have packed spare clothes so if she gets wet then please change them. It’s really not acceptable. And if on pick up she is wet again then question why she hasn’t been changed.

I’d be really pissed off with this. Even if our spare clothes run out they dress our DS in what ever they’ve got. He wore a dress home once.

Not normal. My 3 year old got his clothes wet at nursery this morning and they said they changed him immediately. He came running out in the joggers etc that I'd provided and looked happy.

Basic care. I would start looking at other nurseries and approach like a disciplinary issue - why is this not done, it’s not acceptable, email, and then after it occurs again written warning and if again withdraw without notice. I am sure ofsted would want to know about blatant neglect!

Not normal. My LO gets changed so often sometimes! She comes back in their emergancy spares as she's got through her 2/3 spare pairs just getting wet or eating.

Agree with everyone else. In summer particularly DD often came home in different clothes because she was playing with water earlier in the day (or spilt her drink at lunch time!!). Definitely not ok to leave a kid in wet clothes for hours.

Thanks everyone! Xx
Feeling like the worst mum 😭
I have tried to avoid complaining for a few weeks as I hate complaining but have sent an email now and hoping they will look after her better.
If not then I'm sure we will have to change nurseries as I can't imagine how uncomfortable it must be to have wet clothes on.

It's hard to know what's normal unless you ask though. My LO's sometimes come back with food all over her and not changed but never wet.

I work in a nursery and this isn't ok. A few splashes or damp sleeves is probably fine but properly wet is too much. We're always changing children's wet clothes (especially as their waterproof all in one suits aren't usually very waterproof!)

She must be uncomfortable, especially sleeping like that!

Not ok

My kids have been to a couple of different nurseries and they always changed them out of wet clothes. Usually into clothes I provided, but we’ve definitely had random clothes from nursery.

In fact today a little girl in my DD class was wearing a spare nursery dress as apparently she’d had an accident and also got wet playing, and only had one spare set. They just asked the parent to wash it and bring it back when they could

Not ok at all! Do they leave the toilet-training 2 year olds in wee-soaked joggers?!

I would find it ok if the clothes were only "dirty", wet clothes are a big NO

Absolutely not OK. My child would always be absolutely filthy with mud, but never wet. If no change of clothes they always had spare

Maybe the nursery didn’t notice she was wet? My DS came home with wee soaked trousers and the nursery said “he didn’t tell anyone he was wet”. Surely they should be checking?

It's not okay, kids shouldn't be sent home wet or soiled, nappies should always be fresh with all clothes dry.

Leaving a small child wet and shivering for hours is straightforward neglect. I expect my children to come home messy/dirty but not physically uncomfortable, wet or freezing cold.

I’d be making a formal written complaint. And wondering what other basic things they aren’t doing.