NC for this because my husband is amazing, but he’s annoying me so don’t want him to seem like a twat if my other posts become outing.
We have a 5, nearly 6 month old. I EBF so I do all night time wake ups (which I have no objections to, it’s my choice by EBF). DS wakes 3-4 times a night, more during the regression that we’re starting to come out of. I also put him to bed every night because I breastfeed right before putting him down.
DS goes to sleep at around 9 to 9.30pm for 11 to 12 hours a night. If he’s had a late nap, then it’s closer to 9.30pm, if it’s earlier or a short one, then it’s more like 9pm but earlier if he’s tired.
That bedtime works for me because it means we wake up around 8 to 9am in the morning. I also go to bed around midnight, sometimes later so I can have some me time after my husband goes to bed.
DH thinks it’s too late and he should be going to bed at 8pm. He has no reason for that, just says DS needs to go to bed earlier.
My position is I do bed time, I do all night feeds, so I don’t want to be waking up at 7 to 8am. I do all the work, so I should decide. Obviously when DS starts nursery when I go back to work, it will come forward, but for now, it works for us both.
AIBU for taking that approach?
Before anyone asks, we share lie ins on weekends (I have one on Saturdays and DH has Sundays), so I do try and get some sleep rest then. He is also more hands on during the weekend, but less so on weekday evenings, but if I need him to do something, he will do it without complaint.