AIBU to ask my ex not to move in 100m from me?

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My ex husband broke up with me over lockdown so I had to stay there until everything re-opened. We have a 6 year old DS so we stayed amicable. I've now moved to a lovely little village 5 mins walk from DS school and we are setting well. Ex DH broke up because he wanted fun, excitement and didn't want to stay settled down. He is military and we have moved 5 times in 9 years of marriage. Suddenly, out of the blue last month he bought a house in my village, 100m from mine. I was totally shocked. This was everything he never wanted. I don't fully understand why he has done it but he keeps saying it's best for DS. I can get on board with that but now he will be everywhere I look, probably with a girlfriend in no time at all, in the village I moved to less than 6 months ago. It feels selfish and unfair to me. How do I move on when he is so close? AIBU to ask him not to do this?

I don't really understand why people are saying it doesn't matter and you should just be glad and it will be great for your son. Of course it will be horrible having him so close! I would absolutely hate that if I was in your position too. Having to see him all the time and his new partners etc. Basically rubbing your face in it. I don't think it would be unreasonable at all to ask him to reconsider being quite so close! Of course he can say no but unless he's totally horrible than surely he could understand that you're going to need a bit of space!

I would speak to him and tell him I don't want to live that close to him.

I would put my house on the market if it came to it and move to the next village over.

YANBU, I would hate this.

What does amicable mean for you? I would be setting rules:

• He is never allowed in your house
• he is never to come over to you when you’re out and about
• he does not get to drop in whenever he wants to see DC or take him out
• he does not get to use you as a free babysitter
• he does not get to come over to borrow clothes or anything else from you

I understand why you are upset, but if he's bought a house he's bought a house.

He's not going to pull out of the sale because his ex asks his to, is he? I would probably ignore it, raise my eyebrows slightly and say Goodness! I thought you were looking for more excitement and leave it at that.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

Maybe he wants your joint child to be easily able to see both parents and be independent in doing so as they grow up. The co-parents that live very close to each other that I know have very flexible arrangements and the children are free to come to go.

But maybe OP doesn’t want.

I’d definitely tell him this makes you extremely uncomfortable. If you threaten to move, will he consider your feelings? If he has only just started the process, ask him quickly.