To want to drop out of this event

[lastqueenofscotland]

I’ve been invited (well as a +1) to an event this weekend (not a wedding).
They are all DPs friends from uni including a good number I’ve not met before.
I have a skin condition that isn’t contagious but is very visible and in the last day or so it’s flared up with a vengeance.
I’m in so much pain with it I’m hardly sleeping, I’ve got creams/pills etc but even if it calms down I’ve accidentally cut myself in a few places as the itching is ungodly.
I really don’t feel like I can go and meet loads of new people looking like this. It’s absolutely the first thing anyone would notice, I can’t cover it up or wear makeup over it, I’m usually a pretty confident person who doesn’t care about looks but I feel teary about being introduced to tonnes of new people knowing people will stare at it (I’m not paranoid I’ve seen people do it, someone at work asked if I’d got burnt on something etc etc)
I’ve been looking forward to this but honestly can’t currently think of anything worse. DP would understand completely and I think his main disappointment would be that I wouldn’t let him take my car for the journey. I just don’t know if I’m being ridiculous to drop out now.

Not ridiculous at all. When I've had flare ups of a similar-sounding condition, I've dropped out of things for exactly the same reason. It's just horrendous.

You're being completely reasonable. It would be too stressful to go. Would you be using the car?

He’s got his own car mine is nicer… he’s not allowed to drive it unsupervised

Stick to your guns!

You’re in pain and not sleeping. You’re not well. That’s a good enough reason not to go without the added issues.

@lastqueenofscotland

I’ve been invited (well as a +1) to an event this weekend (not a wedding). They are all DPs friends from uni including a good number I’ve not met before. I have a skin condition that isn’t contagious but is very visible and in the last day or so it’s flared up with a vengeance. I’m in so much pain with it I’m hardly sleeping, I’ve got creams/pills etc but even if it calms down I’ve accidentally cut myself in a few places as the itching is ungodly. I really don’t feel like I can go and meet loads of new people looking like this. It’s absolutely the first thing anyone would notice, I can’t cover it up or wear makeup over it, I’m usually a pretty confident person who doesn’t care about looks but I feel teary about being introduced to tonnes of new people knowing people will stare at it (I’m not paranoid I’ve seen people do it, someone at work asked if I’d got burnt on something etc etc) I’ve been looking forward to this but honestly can’t currently think of anything worse. DP would understand completely and I think his main disappointment would be that I wouldn’t let him take my car for the journey. I just don’t know if I’m being ridiculous to drop out now.

Is it psoriasis OP.

I wholeheartedly understand. Make the decision and concentrate on healing your skin.

YANBU, do what you have to do to get better OP.

If your DP is not happy using his own car that's his issue to solve - don't be browbeaten into lending him yours if you don't want to.

seborrheic dermatitis?