To need a bit of support sometimes?

[Theresalwayssomethingisntthere]

Had a tough day today (details don’t matter). Told husband I’m feeling sad and worried. He just sat there, didn’t say anything. I asked what he was thinking about, he said his car. I said again, I’m feeling sad, he said ok then very reluctantly. I said don’t worry about it because it would have just been awkward and went to do the washing up. He hasn’t been to see my since. AIBU to have wanted a hug/some kind words/something? I feel so lonely sometimes.

Just to add bad day was nothing to do with him so wasn’t like he had any reason to be mad at me

Ahh Op that's not nice at all! I don't really have any advice but your completely within your rights to feel that way. Did you ask for a hug or ask him to be more supportive? I know you shouldn't have to ask...

I asked for a hug 😔

My husband never, ever volunteers to hug me so I have to ask.

Sad but true. Lots of men can be dimwits including my DH.

He sounds like an arse. Has he always been this lacking in empathy?

Have you tried telling him what kind of support you were expecting?

I hope you got your hug eventually. We are here, and we are listening.

Would you like to talk to us about your worries? Am happy to listen.

Depends how often you have bad days, I think. Also, if you were more specific about the issue rather than saying “I’m feeling sad”, would he respond to that?

So sorry to hear you don't feel supported op. Do you have other people IRL that you can reach out to?

Thank you all.

I was specific about what was making me sad - how hard its proving to find childcare for our DS with special needs, meaning i might have to give up my job.

I have said before I need support when I’m sad, just a hug or some reassuring words.

I can’t imagine not comforting him if it was the other way around.

I have other people who support me, but I just wish he would too.