Contraception aibu

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I've recently had my second baby (husband's first) We love our little family but are definitely done, which is just as well given we can't afford more and I had a difficult pregnancy with my second which means I definitely shouldn't have a second. We're now 4 months PP and due to my health issues we have a choice between barrier contraceptives (which I don't trust us to use) the non hormonal coil (which I'm not keen on due to recent press coverage and failures) or sterilisation of one or both of us- willing for this either way...

DH doesn't want to do anything and thinks I should insist on the pill which doctor won't consent to given my health issues. I've been on contraception since 15 and now think I've done enough but don't want to put my foot down and never have sex again or rely on us using barriers which often fail. I'm not saying he should get the snip, just wonder if I'm the unreasonable one for not wanting a copper coil which is painful according to Naga Muncherty and causes horrible thrush and pain according to my friends...

[quote kitkatsky]@ShrimpBarbarian my GP told me similar too. Is there any need to be so aggressive and arsey? Maybe me and OP have received wrong or outdated information but this isn't the same as repeating some rubbish off YouTube. There was no need for your comment [/quote]
Any reason you res'ed a 4 month old thread to comment this?

If you're old enough to have dc and post on mn, then you're old enough to be able to use Google and see how stupid that is

Why can't he have a vasectomy

YANBU. Dp told me 2 years ago was going to get the snip because he moans I gained weight since being on the pill. I made him responsible for contraception to prove without the pill i loose it which i did, and within under a month he refused to wear a condom. His the one not wanting more kids yet I'm the one stuck taking the pill. That one month off made me realise how much it affects me. Like i had so much more energy without it. Limited to the pill due to family history. He kept saying to have the copper coil because its the only other thing I can use that's most reliable. I refused as seen so many horror stories. 2 years on his finally spoke to the doctor as I told him by the end of this year I will no longer be taking the pill so if he hasn't had the snip he will solely be responsible for contraception as I have dealt with it for the past 13 years minus us choosing to have dc.

I had a copper coil, fitting it was fine but I made sure I was off my tits on prescription codeine beforehand. Literally didn’t hurt at all.

However the periods, Jesus wept. I’ve always had really light periods with no pain, but that changed swiftly. I’d start getting contraction type pains a few days before that were agonising, and when I started bleeding it would be very heavy and last for 8 days instead of 3.

I did like not having to worry about pregnancy aspect, but as I have a short cycle anyway I was bleeding for 8 days out of 23, which felt like too much. I accidentally pulled mine out after a year, and immediately my periods went back to normal. The relief! I did mean to go and get another coil but 16 months on I haven’t been able to bring myself to as I know what it will be like.