To be upset?

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I’m a single parent to a 3 year old. I work alongside full time Study.
My son has recently had a cough (2 negative PCR tests) but no other illness. His dad (my ex) picked him up from nursery today as his mum is visiting from abroad. Nursery mentioned sons cough seemed to have got worse today and suggested calling the doctor (completely fair enough). But rather than ex calling the doctor or asking me to make the call (we were friends until he said this) he told me I was a failure as a parent and selfish and put Uni and work before my son.
It’s completely not true and it really hurt. I politely pointed out that he is also a parent and he can take time off too to make the appointment (he’s currently off work anyway) but he reiterated I had failed as a parent as it’s my responsibility as his mum.

I don’t neglect my child. Yes, he’s been coughing but not a lot or been ill. It’s obviously got worse today but I’ve been in Uni all day and it wasn’t so bad for nursery today call me.

I’m just feeling like I’ve been kicked in the guts and I’m a shit mum.

Taking my son to the doctors now for any health police out there.

Hope your sons OK.

He sounds like a dick OP. Try not to let him get yo you.

Hope he is ok. Your ex is a cunt. How dare he suggest you are the only one responsible just because your a mother. Tell him he has failed as a father on more than one count.

Your ex is been a dickhead.

Your ex is equally able to take your child just ignore him, stand up for yourself and tell him. Don’t feel bad, kids get coughs they get better or worse you’re not to know especially as he’s fine fine in himself and nursery aren’t concerned. Your ex should be ashamed of himself. He needs to take responsibility as an equal parent and share the care of your child so if he’s worried he can take him. Don’t take this on your shoulders op, it’ll never end. I have 4 kids and my ex leaves a lot of my youngest care to me but I do insist he takes him to appointments if they fall on his days. It’s not all on me, it’s a lot to put on your shoulders.
Don’t feel bad and hope your sons cough goes away soon.

Well he is your ex for a reason.

There's obviously a reason he's an ex! Lucky escape by the sound of things, I imagine misogyny is one of his many delightful traits.

Don't let this arsehole get you down OP. You've got a lot in your plate - you don't need to fill your headspace with his bullshit.

Thank you all.
Doctor said viral cough and to let it run its course. Can’t say I wasn’t smug relaying that information back to the ex.

I’m just mad now. He’s a dick

What a shitty thing to say to you op , hope your ok? . Because he’s your ex I wouldn’t give it the time of day but yes I bet that hurt . I’d be very cold with him for the foreseeable. Twat !!