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About these shoes?

45 replies

Pallyum · 14/09/2021 10:13

Dd bought some shoes online and had them sent to me here - she no longer lives at home. She found some other shoes she liked better, bought them, and asked me to return the ones she got sent here. I agreed.

I didn’t do it in time for various reasons - not sure if they’re relevant but just in case they are: I work full time but have had Covid so was off sick, I’m moving, I have other dc at home etc. Anyway, I proposed to dd that I sell the shoes on eBay or FB marketplace and give her whatever I got for them.

She is not happy with me. AIBU?

OP posts:
DreadingItBadly · 14/09/2021 11:11

Send them back now, even if you are late. The company might still honour the return. At worst, they will give you a credit which your daughter can use on something else.

Unless shoes are designer, you are very unlikely to get any reasonable amount for them, if any. Minus ebay fees and postage.

Just send them back now for a refund and hope for the best.

TweetyPieBird · 14/09/2021 11:25

She won’t get her money back. She’ll have to sell them below what she got plus p&p. This is your fault as you should’ve told her you wouldn’t be able to return them. You should give her the full price of the shoes she paid and then you sell them.

gofg · 14/09/2021 11:26

You probably should have told her you weren't going to be able to send them back, but she has a cheek getting things sent to you and then expecting you to deal with the stuff she doesn't want. Also, if she lives so far away what was she going to do if you didn't agree to send them back? YANBU

TinnedPotatoesRock · 14/09/2021 11:33

@marieantoinehairnet

They're her shoes, not your problem, perhaps she could go it herself?
She said she would return them for her DD though and didn't so yes, it is her problem
Minionbums · 14/09/2021 11:38

I’d get her to contact the company and explain the situation, especially the covid bit, they may be sympathetic.

marieantoinehairnet · 14/09/2021 11:55

Did she get them on credit and use your address to get them?

Which is very naughty of her but the only reason I can think she'd do this

marieantoinehairnet · 14/09/2021 11:57

Post them to your daughter and ask her to return

LittleGwyneth · 14/09/2021 13:40

Unless you can't afford to pay her for them, pay her for them.

TinnedPotatoesRock · 14/09/2021 13:47

@marieantoinehairnet

Did she get them on credit and use your address to get them?

Which is very naughty of her but the only reason I can think she'd do this

I get stuff delivered to my mum's house all the time as I'm out at work and mum offered as she's mostly at home - I'm surprised you didn't think of this reason before jumping to the getting them on credit comment. And so what, lots of people buy things on credit
marieantoinehairnet · 14/09/2021 13:50

B cause she lives 250 miles away, she's hardly popping round to pick them up is she?

girlmom21 · 14/09/2021 13:51

You were unreasonable but you've acknowledged that.

Have a look online and see how much they were and how much you can sell them for before making any offers or promises.

WhereYouLeftIt · 14/09/2021 13:53

"I told her I was ill but she lives about 250 miles away so she couldn’t really drop by to pick them up! I don’t actually know why she got them sent here - good question, I’ll ask her!"

That was my first thought - why did she get them sent to your address when she doesn't live there any more? And given she lives 250 miles away, when was she planning on picking them up? Was she just going to leave them there indefinitely?

"She found some other shoes she liked better, bought them, and asked me to return the ones she got sent here. I agreed."
What did her last slave die of? Honestly, my mum would have said exactly that to me if I'd pulled that stunt. And that's even before you get on to her pissing the retailer about (presumably she'd have expected them to pay for the return?).

Bottom line for me is - she spent money, changed her mind, expected to have no consequences (not out of pocket) for no effort (mum cleans up my mess). N. She takes the hit for her own dizzyness.

Consequences. Whether she's 6, or 26.

Redgeraniums · 14/09/2021 13:56

You can still exchange them. Or get a credit note.

SkankingMopoke · 14/09/2021 13:59

If it's only slightly over time I would return them citing your bout of covid, in the hope they'll at least give her a credit note if not a refund. Can she ring customer services first, explain the situation, and see what they say?

Original poster
Pallyum · 14/09/2021 14:36

Thanks for further replies and opinions. You’ll all think I’m very stupid now but I haven’t actually tried to return them Blush. I just saw that I had 2 weeks to do so, and knew that 2 weeks was long gone.

OP posts:
LookItsMeAgain · 14/09/2021 14:46

Where did she buy them from? If it was from the likes of Schuh, she can return them unworn for up to 1 year from date of purchase.

girlmom21 · 14/09/2021 14:57

@Pallyum

Thanks for further replies and opinions. You’ll all think I’m very stupid now but I haven’t actually tried to return them Blush. I just saw that I had 2 weeks to do so, and knew that 2 weeks was long gone.
I agree with a PP who said to contact the company and tell them you've had Covid. Most are being really flexible with returns at the moments
KaptainKaveman · 14/09/2021 15:19

You aren't her skivvy OP. I think your dd should have sorted it out herself.

girlmom21 · 14/09/2021 16:05

@KaptainKaveman

You aren't her skivvy OP. I think your dd should have sorted it out herself.
Her daughter asked for her help and OP agreed. She's not treating her like a skivvy Hmm
RaspberryThief · 14/09/2021 16:49

Whatever you decide to do this time, I'd ask her not to use your address for this sort of thing again. Not worth the hassle.

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