I have a friend I’ve been friends with for many years. Our DMs were close and we ‘grew up’ together. We see each other several times a year, and I still class her as one of my closest friends, and we talk more often that we see each other.
We went out for dinner on Friday night to a very nice restaurant. It’s the first time I’ve seen her one on one for a few months (lockdown, cancellations due to isolating etc.) I was really looking forward to it, got all dressed up etc.
Anyway, she turns up with the car. She absolutely without a doubt knew that getting dressed up and meeting in the city would mean I’d assume we’d be getting taxis and enjoying a couple of drinks after the meal. Anyway, she came into the restaurant, said she’d only be able to stay for the main course, and would be driving straight home afterwards. She said she’d been busy all day with DD and hadn’t had time to think about a taxi.
Anyway, we spoke about her DC (both of whom I love, so I’m not opposed to that), their school, her DH’s new job, her DP’s marriage renewal, her new extension, what car she was considering buying. Every time I tried to say something about myself you could see her physically losing interest and looking elsewhere. It’s not a new problem, it’s gone on for years.
This time though, I had just got engaged. She said ‘how is… X?’ I said ‘no, his name is Y’, and she said ‘yes that’s right’ and moved on like nothing had happened.
Luckily said DF was on hand to continue the night out, but AIBU to be annoyed and to feel like she doesn’t care at all about anything in my life? I honestly feel like telling her not to bother coming to my wedding. Her DC are meant to be flower girl and page boy, we’re allegedly that close.