To have no dreams for the future

[FlintVehicleCity]

I've always known what I've wanted to do in life. The things I've wanted to achieve, to experience, places to live etc. Always knew where I'd want to be in 5 years time for example. Always on a mission to do and achieve and to get to where I want to be, and I've done it all or at least given it all a go.

The other day I was doing one of my mental stock-takes and tried to imagine where I'd like to be in 5 year's time and I came up with nothing. Nothing at all.

I'm 40, married (not too happily) with 2 dc. Own property with outright with no mortgage (with dh). Don't have a great career, but I'm ok with that and we earn enough combined. Kids are doing well and have everything they need for good life.

So, is this it? Is this a mid-life crisis? Is this how your mind gets 'old' cynical or bitter? How is it possible to not have any more dreams for the future?! IABU?

You just need some new goals!

Achieving goals is great, but half the fun is pursuing them. :)

I’ve noticed this – I’m happiest when I’m working towards something and making progress. There can almost be a despondency in achieving something, because what then?

It sounds like things are comfortable but you’re lacking variation / stimulation / new experiences and challenges.

@JustBrowwsing yes! You're right. But what though? To pursue a more meaningful career we'd have to move back to London, which we left for the benefit of the dc. They are happy and seeing them makes me very happy too of course.

But now what I am going to do apart from parenting and providing?! I have no idea.

I’m a couple of years older than you and my future goals focus on a three things;

• a couple of places I want to visit - one as a whole family and one as a couple

• fitness goals related to a particular event

• retirement plans to move to a particular area which allow me to do some specific hobbies (can’t wait!)

I’m generally a happy person but do like to have things to look forward to!