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needadviceplease3 · 11/09/2021 18:51

Ok so I think I'm pregnant. A bit of back story, I have 3 beautiful DC already who we never thought we would have due to fertility issues. I can't take birth control because I have reacted quite badly to everything they have tried to put me on. DH is currently on the waiting list for the snip but it's taking a while because of the pandemic.
We had sex about 3 weeks ago and I just randomly bought a test today because ive felt quite sick the last few days. We did use protection at the time so I wasn't worried anything would happen (I know it's not 100%)
I don't get periods because I have endometriosis and a few other things so my only way to ever check is to do a test.
Anyway did the test tonight, well ive done 2, and it looks like a very faint positive.
I am in no way able to have another child at the moment (well, ever really) I had severe complications in my last pregnancies, plus ive just started a university course and am finally getting my career back on track.
My question is what happens now? Ive never been in this situation so I don't know what I do or who I ask for help? Please be kind

OP posts:
Elclr · 11/09/2021 18:58

Call BPAS or another provider in your area. If you have made up your mind, which it sounds like you have, the sooner the better. They will ask about dates etc.

You do not need to see your GP, you self refer. They are very helpful and will walk you through the next steps.

Just remember, you're allowed to be sad, feel relieved, be angry. All your emotions are valid.

Lots of love ❤

needadviceplease3 · 11/09/2021 19:01

@Elclr

Call BPAS or another provider in your area. If you have made up your mind, which it sounds like you have, the sooner the better. They will ask about dates etc.

You do not need to see your GP, you self refer. They are very helpful and will walk you through the next steps.

Just remember, you're allowed to be sad, feel relieved, be angry. All your emotions are valid.

Lots of love ❤

Thank you for your kind reply! I've just googled BPAS and got their number so will call them in the morning. I feel bad for feeling so sure on what I want to do but we are honestly just not in a situation for another. My DC are all under 5 and I have just paid 10k in student loans to start my new course and get back to a career. Not to mention the fact that I was in hospital for most of my other pregnancies so it wouldn't be possible to do that now with my little ones. I know people will say I should have been more careful but my husband has been on the list for the snip and they can't do it any sooner because of Covid. For now condoms just have to do. Although I will be fully abstaining now until he has the procedure! X
OP posts:
Elclr · 11/09/2021 19:11

You are more than welcome and I'm pleased I could help.

I've known women make the decision for exactly the same reason as you. You are not alone, and you are not being selfish or bad for knowing this is the right decision for you and your family.

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