To look for a new job already?

[Olympiadreamer]

I've been in a new job for a week. I have cried everyday driving in and in bed at night (not at work yet). I don't want to go into too many details but it won't improve no matter who I talk to about it. I feel sick everyday. I have adrenalin racing through my body and my skin is pricking, my heart is racing, I am so close to tears constantly. I will fail in this job and it won't be my fault. I feel like I was almost tricked into accepting it and information was withheld. I contacted the doctors and they've given me a prescription for anti d's and suggested councilling. After a week I feel like a shadow of myself and I can't cope. I don't even want to see friends or family as I know I'll cry.

Would aibu to look for another job after only a week?

Is it teaching?

Yes

No job is worth feeling like that. Look for a new job.

Is it teaching as a whole or just this particular school?

@Ginger1982

Is it teaching as a whole or just this particular school?

Both but mainly the school.

Are you an NQT?

@CallMeRisley

Are you an NQT?

No I've been teaching nearly 2 decades.

You will know if the job isn't right. Never stay in a job that's terrible, thinking you might get used to it. Life is too short, honestly.

I've had many jobs over the years, most I've liked, some I've loved, one or two I have known instantly that it won't work. The ones that were awful, I've left straight away, I once stayed only 4 days in a job but I knew it was the wrong place. Like you I dreaded it each day, cried, couldn't sleep and felt I'd made a huge mistake.

Just look for something else.....

So sorry you feel like this OP. Can you feel us a bit more about the situation- you’re new to the school, did you move for promotion? Return from a maternity leave? Etc. Did you know the school beforehand? Primary or secondary? Can you tell us more about what’s going wrong.

@CallMeRisley

So sorry you feel like this OP. Can you feel us a bit more about the situation- you’re new to the school, did you move for promotion? Return from a maternity leave? Etc. Did you know the school beforehand? Primary or secondary? Can you tell us more about what’s going wrong.

I think it would be a bit outing to say too much.

So what's likelihood of getting new job or going back to old school? If it's good then quit.

@Hankunamatata

So what's likelihood of getting new job or going back to old school? If it's good then quit.

I can't go back to old post as they've hired to replace me and the person is already in place. As for new job, who knows. Fairly good chance I'd guess but nobody knows.

Oh god, is it a school starting with V? I felt exactly the same, cried my heart out to a former colleague I bumped into on Open Day. I stayed for 2 years (thank god for lockdown!) but now miss the staff terribly, maybe because of the whole Covid/masks/zero socialising at my current school last year.

If it’s behaviour related, OP, get out ASAP. It’s soul destroying, particularly if there isn’t proper back up from management.

I started a new admin job 3 weeks ago. I should be happy because it's WFH, not bad salary and benefits but I'm not.

It's a start up and they have NO CLUE.

I wrote my own employment contract, NDA and Confidentiality Agreement!
This week, they asked me to do my own pay slip, I've never done payroll in my life.

Latest is they want me to do their Social Media as well. Never done that either.

They give me jobs to do then don't follow up with the input I need from them, don't have time to train me so I'm twiddling my thumbs a lot of the time.

To top it off, they have installed an employee tracking prog in my laptop.

If it doesn't improve I'll have to go.

If you resign now, you’ll be out by Christmas. Chin up, sweetheart, been there, done that.

It's horrific that I knew it was teaching instantly. Most of my colleagues and I are feeling similarly this week.
Can you tell us a bit about what is upsetting you, in vague terms? I.e. is it unreasonable T&L requirements; admin; SLT; pupil behaviour; workload?

Im sorry OP... please look after your yourself 🌸

@QuarantineQueen

It's horrific that I knew it was teaching instantly. Most of my colleagues and I are feeling similarly this week. Can you tell us a bit about what is upsetting you, in vague terms? I.e. is it unreasonable T&L requirements; admin; SLT; pupil behaviour; workload?

All of the above and more.

I did this once. The job was a huge mistake and I was searching for a new one after a week. I did 4 weeks in the end, while I was looking for a new job.

Move on. It's not worth it.

Came to say that as soon as I read your post I thought it was teaching. I’ve had teaching jobs like that. I’m really sorry, only advice I can really think of is to try and sit down and write a precise list of the things that are making you feel like this (work related but also anything outside of it). Then think about whether they’re things you are able to change/ limit/ take control over. If the answer is no to any of the major stresses then I’d be looking for a route out.
I love teaching, I love my job now. Teaching doesn’t have to be shit and you don’t have to put up with it.

If it’s SLT then get out, get out, get out! Bet you had an induction with loads of other new starters if it’s SLT?

Primary or secondary? If secondary do you have a Head of Department you could speak to? I agree get out but also look at making the time you work out your resignation bearable.

@QuarantineQueen

Primary or secondary? If secondary do you have a Head of Department you could speak to? I agree get out but also look at making the time you work out your resignation bearable.

Primary

Thank you everyone.