AIBU to risk MN disapproval by asking for help with my daughter's sleep here?

[WhereTheFuck]

I tried posting this in the Sleep section but no reply, so I'm reposting here in desperation! any advice welcome!

I co slept with my DD from birth but decided enough was enough and managed to get her to sleep in her cot by the end of June this year, when she was 20 months old. For a couple of months she went down at 8 ish and slept through until 4 or 5, then came into my bed for another couple of hours.. Which I was fine with and it felt great getting more sleep!

However, she has regressed in the last few weeks and the early morning wake up has got earlier and earlier to the extent that i can't really say she is sleeping through any more. Last night she woke up at midnight and cried until I took her into my bed sad

How do I fix this? She is still breastfed st night and in the morning, but I don't feed her to sleep- I put her in her cot awake. But in the night when she wakes she wants milk now sad it just feels like we are going backwards! Naps are hard too, often she takes up to an hour to fall asleep, but she definitely still needs a nap - once she does go to sleep she sleeps for at least an hour and a half (usually from about 1-2.30).

Any advice on how I can sort this? I'm a single parent, which makes it harder. During the week I work full time (she has a lovely nanny) and I need my sleep - I work 60 hour weeks.. Please help!

If you're looking for permission to sleep train then here you go - permission granted. You don't have to co sleep if you don't want to.

I was a single mum and sleep trained dc. I needed to sleep to be a good mum and so do you.

[quote WhereTheFuck]@bastardmonkfish I have one, is great for getting her to sleep at night but she just ignores it when she wakes up :/[/quote]
Oh well I won't be buying one of them then lol. My 4 year old comes into my bed when he wakes in the night too, from the mums I know it seems musical beds is pretty normal in most families.

Dd slept with us until age 7, she's the most independent now as an adult!

Have you tried giving her some food an hour before bedtime? Baby food or yoghurt, not milk.

I find it keeps them fuller for longer so they sleep through when they previously would have woken for milk.

I would drop the nap in the first instance. It will seem like she needs it obviously because she’s not sleeping well at night, but if by this age if they don’t want to sleep I don’t see the point in forcing it, certainly not if it takes an hour. If she slept properly through the night she would probably be fine in the day without a day time sleep - swings and roundabouts. It seems like the most obvious solution to me, it might not work but I’d definitely try it.